How does your partner feel about sex toys?

Hi. Just wondering for anyone in a longer term relationships/marriage how your other half feels about sex toys? My husband can be quite reserved, this comes from a past relationship in which his girlfriend would prefer to use a dildo over having sex with him and she eventually had an affair so he worries about sex toys replacing. We have things like blindfold, ties, different lubes etc and I do have a bullet vibe and he kind of doesnt mind if I use that during sex if we are in a position that doesnt offer much clit stimulation. The thing is hes in a new job and the hours are very long, often not home until 1 in the morning and not much time during the day to do anything. I'm masturbating quite regularly but I'm finding the usual fingers and bullet not quite enough, I need to be filled and am thinking of buying a dildo, nothing enormous, hes about 7 inches erect and quite thick and is the perfect size for me so I wouldn't get anything bigger than he is. I just worry about him getting sensitive about it and a bit funny with me. I would quite like to incorporate it into sex too with a try at double penetration but I've not spoken to him about it yet. Do you have a dildo and/or penis like toy, how does your other half feel about it? Sorry to have rambled.

 

A good investment would be a good body wand . Its none threatening as its basically a massage tool. In our opinion its a great couples toy and can be easily used as part of your foreplay .I find nothing more satisfying after a hard day my partner giving me a massage with one of these and then I use it on her.

Many toys designed for women for example a Rabbit can also be used on guys as well . Its just that the market is more geared towards women .

Glass dildos appear to have a following as you can place them in the fridge to cool them . Great for summer.

 

My wife is against any sex toys. I believe that there can be a lot of fun to be had with the use of a few toys

 

A wand looks good but I really want a dildo to fill me up, I love clit orgasms but the feeling of a cock inside me is what I need sometimes (lately a lot more often)

 

My wife enjoys sex toys, primarily penis-shaped vibrators. Her current favorite is 7 inches long, thick, and flexible.. Sometimes she likes the big one, 9 inches by 2 inches with a variety of vibrator speeds. We use them regularly when we have sex.

 

How do you incorporate them into sex?

 

I used a dildo on my wife just last night for the first time. It is larger than I am and I feel a little self conscience about it but since I was the one using it on her I was good with it. She hasn’t used it on herself yet though. My wife said that it obviously feels a lot different than the real thing so I wouldn’t worry too much about getting one slightly bigger than he is to fill you up.

 

After foreplay to get things started and a brief period of intercourse, I pull out and use the vibrator/dildo for a while or let her use it on herself while I work on other parts of her body. After that, we go to oral or more screwing.

 

That is the problem you may have. If the Dildo looks too much like a guys appendage , then he may feel threatened as he would probably see at as a replacement and make him feel inadequate .

The best way around this IMO is to pick models that don't look like male appendages but would still satisfy yourself when your OH used it on you .I would check out web stores like Lovehoney for example who carry very big ranges and choice.

 

Between age 38 and 50 I introduced my wife to toys and it was a good addition to our sex lives. Now she is post menapausal and seems to have little to no interest in sex. I don't think another man is the issue. Funny thing is she things it was cool for us to use toys, on her but I suggested I get a Fleshlight and she use it on me. She thought that was unacceptable because there's nothing in it for her. I'll admit I find it selfish of her. So I secretly masturbate.

 

I let her decide, she had several sizes. The 8 inch was first, but at times she wanted more. I didn't mind.

 

She has a few and love to orgasm with them.

 

My wife had never had a toy or masturbated. All my previous partners had. I slowly introduced her to toys and she grew to like me using them with her, but she never used them solo! We used them while fantasizing about MFMs and DP, and they had to look like a real cock. Now the past few years she has ZERO interest in our collection (or my cock) so they’re put away collecting dust!