How do you know...

Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by fexurbis, Apr 11, 2007.

  1. fexurbis

    fexurbis Member

    When you're a sex junky? I think I'm one. It disrupts my life...
     
  2. I guess when you can say "it disrupts my life"...
     
  3. EazyE

    EazyE Senior Member

    Lol ^
     
  4. Relic

    Relic Coming Unhinged

    WHen you crane it day and night non stop! Maybe Hell if I really know. Take in it is the only thing that is ever on your mind?
     
  5. fexurbis

    fexurbis Member

    It's not the ONLY thing I think about, not by far. But it doesn't allow me to concentrate on other aspects of my life as much as I want to. My ex-girlfriend thought I was a sex addict.

    I wank a lot, but probably not as much as some other sex addicts out there...lol.
     
  6. toolmaggot

    toolmaggot Nuts Go Here.

    ...When it disrupts your life.

    When you run around at work humping inanimate objects and get the jitters and can't walk because you're so horny, even though you cranked one out right before work.

    Shit, I'm a sex junkie.
     
  7. fexurbis

    fexurbis Member

    Can anyone give me a more, say..."scientific" definition? I took the sex compulsivity questionnaire on the sticky thread. My number is up there, but not waaaaaaaay up there...
     
  8. EazyE

    EazyE Senior Member

    When you're a loser and you use sex all the time to cover up how you really feel.
    I think there is a disorder for it to though.. Some guy on TV was in a car crash and he was addicted to sex ever since, he purposely tried to walk in on his mum getting changed and stuff like that.
    If you dont have the disorder, you're just a loser.
     
  9. Pmeth

    Pmeth Member

    lol.
     
  10. EazyE

    EazyE Senior Member

    No wunder you know all these slang sex/genital related terms like "duck butter" lol
     
  11. BudToker

    BudToker Senior Member

    If your 30 and aspects of your life are disrupted then u are a sex addict. It can actually be a serious problem. Some people's lives are ruined by it. My cousin is a crazy sex addict. he will sleep with ANY girl at ANY time, no matter what the consequences...for real.
     
  12. fexurbis

    fexurbis Member

    EazyE, ease back kiddo. I didn't start this thread to have some high school teen tell me I'm a "loser." How cute...

    I'm not one of your schoolmates, and I'm looking for a more sophisticated approach to the problem. You teeny-bops really know a lot!
     
  13. toolmaggot

    toolmaggot Nuts Go Here.

    You asked for opinions, you got them. You got them from different age categories. One would think it would be a valuable thing, hold some kind of interest, to see the perspective of a high schooler along with an older person.

    Who's to say he was calling you a loser? I think he was just speaking in general terms. No need to get tetchy.
     
  14. fexurbis

    fexurbis Member

    I don't care whom he's calling a loser, that isn't the point.

    What he did is sort of like: "Could you define alcoholism?" "Yeah, alcoholics are losers."

    I started the thread with the purpose of hearing from others who may be familiar with sex addiction or who may have knowledge of it. The point of this thread is not passing judgement on people who may have this problem, whether it be myself or anyone else.
     
  15. EazyE

    EazyE Senior Member

    If it disrupts your life you are a "sex junkie", now all you have to do is seek help.
    I can find info for you with one search in google, "obsessed with sex".
    Now look thru these symptoms and see if you have them:

    Having multiple sexual partners or extramarital affairs
    Having sex with a succession of anonymous partners or prostitutes and treating them as objects to be used for sex
    Using commercial sexually explicit phone lines and Internet chat rooms
    Engaging in excessive masturbation
    Using pornographic materials frequently
    Engaging in masochistic or sadistic sex, such as experiencing sexual excitement by inflicting or receiving pain during sex
    Exposing yourself in public
    Often feeling compelled to engage in sexual activity when you're stressed, anxious or depressed


    And here is your solution:

    Some questions you can ask yourself are:

    • Can I control my sexual behavior?
    • Is my sexual behavior hurting my relationships with friends and family, affecting my ability to work, or resulting in negative consequences, such as getting arrested?
    • Is sex constantly on my mind, even when I don't want to be thinking about it?
    If you're concerned that you're obsessed with sex, look for a doctor who specializes in treating sexual behavior disorders. Your family doctor may be able to give you the name of such a specialist, or you can contact a nearby major medical center and ask for a referral.


    See? A 15 y/o can help! And learn to take a joke!
     
  16. fexurbis

    fexurbis Member

    There is a lot here not to agree with...especially the part about having multiple sex partners.

    1) Uh, I've been with 3 prostitutes, I'm planning on my fourth trip, but I do not deny their humanity, much the contrary --- I respect them all the more because they catch the brunt of society's puritanism;

    2) Never used phone sex lines;

    3) Do use pornographic materials frequently;

    4) Not into pain/humiliation;

    5) Never exposed myself in public, but do have exhibitionist fantasies/tendencies;

    6) Do feel like having sex as a compensatory tool for depression (from which I suffer);


    • 1) Yes, I can control my sexual behavior; 2) the absence of sex does have an impact on my capacity to work, and on my willingness to see friends and family (I've never come close to being arrested); 3) sex is on my mind for a good portion of every day, even when I wish it wasn't;
    I'm aware there are professionals in that area of expertise and yes, a less judgemental 15 y/o can be of help.
     
  17. EazyE

    EazyE Senior Member

    Well there you go, you are not a sex junkie, but maybe you are sort of half way there?. I'm not judgemental, it was a joke.
     
  18. fexurbis

    fexurbis Member

    That's what I'm saying...it's really very complex. It's a thin line on the sand...

    Kind of like, who's an alcoholic...

    Does anyone else here feel they are sex addicts? Why so?

    EazyE, point well-taken.
     

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