How do you increase your sex drive?

My libido is pretty good, but I would like to rev it up a notch. Any advice? So far, I've been exercising a lot, watching porn, and reading erotica.

 

Is your partner doing the same , keeping in tune with each other is very important

 

Try to fantasize and imagine as much as you can. So, you do not need to watch pron anymore.

 

I do it for a long time without watching pron.

 

Exercise, weight training, even for women increases testosterone which is the sex hormone. A good diet followed by exploring what new ways there are that turn you on leads to wanting more. Wanting more sex is known as increased libido which is also increasing your sex drive..

 

I think watching a live sex act will get your juices going. I really like the “caught in the act” porn clips on the net.

 

Touching, grinding my cock, and visualizing before sleep.

 

The more you do it, the more you want to do it. Just do it.

 

Try new thing's how about outdoors

 

I did the same thing not long ago and decided to start learning Tantric Sex, it made my libido go into overdrive and dialled it up to 11!
It helps you to feel more in the moment, as oppose to thinking ahead towards your orgasm. Its truly something that feels new and fresh and opens you up to new pleasures that you have never had before

Let me know how you go!

 

I don’t know if I am increasing it, but one thing is to keep active in my case. In the absence of a friend with benefits I always take care of myself. I will watch Soft porn to get some visual stimulation. The porn I watch is handjobs, blowjobs, titfucks. Something I will relate with receiving, but in person I desire penetration very much as well

 

Do you mean (a) increase your desire for a little something something or (b) increase the intensity of when you ARE turned on @emmamichelle ?

[Erotica! Got any good suggestions? I really miss the letters page of forum magazine. Loved the hot crazy confessions. Even had a letter published one time. Did eventually just turn into endless “I want to watch my wife with another man” type fantasies though. Yawn. ]

I stopped watching porn a couple of years back (for various reasons & it wasn’t easy) but LOVE the various effects it has had. Also found that if I give up TV and porn, it really ups the desire for and pleasure gained through other activities - particularly exercise and sexercise! Turns out this is all about getting the dopamine reward system working in a very awesome and moreish way.

I’d say diet* (inc some supplements), exercise, Kegels**, erotica, something that keeps you stimulated***.

* see “The orgasmic diet” by Lindberg. Targeted at women but I helped me too (I have sought to become as mutiorgasmic as possible so have read a lot of stuff on the way. *grin* )
** did you know that Kegel originally developed these exercises to help with bladder control? Apparently ladies were reporting side-effects of orgasms during intercourse.
*** I sometimes wear a cocking when I am at home alone. Between that and some supplements that work for me (everyone is different) I have a throbbing semi all day. Answered the other day without realising I’d dribbled right through my shorts. Oops. Had a girlfriend once who would wear love-eggs in the house. She said she loved doing housework with them in, seemed to get her quite worked up. Said she once had an orgasm doing the vacuuming! I found this hot as hell. Wish my gal would try this, but just not her thing.

 

Emmamichelle,
I'll add a new suggestion you may think crazy, but it often works - Erotic Hypnosis!
No one is going to turn you into a sex slave - unless you want to be one??
You can't be made to do anything against your will nor that you didn't want to do in the first place.
I though hypnosis was pure BS until I tried it. It was like being in a deep meditative state, which I'd only ever achieved once before. Mine was for a different reason, but got curious looking at other uses, and well curiosity + internet usually ends up searching about sex!
It's helpful for women to increase desire, overcome fear of sex or painful sex due to tight muscles from anxiety. It also helps women achieve hands free orgasms who have never had an orgasm at all, and for those that already can, help make them easier to have and be more intense.
It reduces your stress, lowers any unconscious anxiety about sex, let's you be more uninhibited to try what you desire, not get held up worrying about what friends, family or partner may react.
Send me a DM, I can help out with some generic hypnosis tips, share a file I got from a professional hypnotist - a non sexual file - sorry! It has worked without fail for me & a couple female friends I shared it with.
Here are articles reviewing hynosis for women.
We Got Hypnotized to Help Our Sex Life—and It REALLY Worked | Women's Health
Erotic hypnosis - How to have hypnosis orgasms

2. Kegels, Kegels, and more Kegels.
3. Look into some of the saddle style sex toys. Not cheap, but be warned it will give you orgasms that are beyond what you've ever experienced.
Tremor Rock and Roll, or the older, more expensive Sybian which is legendary. Look up videos of women riding them, but use headphones, as they often have screaming orgasms!
4. G-spot : Find it, finger it, get vibrators that reach both it and your clitoris.
5. Cardio AND stretching /yoga.The better your circulatory system, the more blood that pumps to your brain, breast, and pubic area.
The clit and the vagina lips are how every man's penis starts out in the womb, until we diverge. You know well about circumstances ukation and blood flow to a man's penis - it's the same principle for a woman. Flexibility through yoga or stretching will make any sex act easier for you to do, make some previously impossible positions become possible.
Combine cardio with flexibility and you can go longer, try more positions, go harder, and be ready for more the next day instead of bedding a bag if frozen peas! LOL!
6. Clitoris and vaginal lips vacuum pump. Get one that can do either for a better deal. It helps bring more blood to your sex organs.
7. High tech vibrator dildos. One example is the Lionness. Uses sensors to measure physical parameters in your vaginal, pulse rate, to figure out what speed patterns work best for you, and over a few sessions uses AI to kick your irgasms into higher gear. Plus it has the whole remote control option for you and your partner to have fun with.

I wish you well on your libido boosting quest! You are half way there just wanting it to happen! If you converted the sexual power of a woman's brain into the equivalent of a man's penis, it'd be 10 stories big! I both envy and fear your partner once you do ramp your libido up, as they are in for one heck of a time!

 

Porn revs both of us up expecialy on a 70 inch TV screen.

 

All things considered watching porn with your mate is the best sex enhancer I can ever imagine. I came home from work one day and she was nude on the couch watching a porn video and rubbing her vag. She said, "Just in time I need some help." She had all the toys out and my strap on all filled up with my favorite yogurt. I couldn't wait to take a shower and suck my girls dick.

 

First, learn about it. Second, be specific about what you are trying to accomplish. The term "sex drive" is virtually meaningless, because it isn't and on/off switch. The term "libido" isn't much better.

Once you determine your arousal triggers and understand both spontaneous arousal and responsive arousal, there are four pillars or dimensions:

(1) Frequency.
(2) Intensity.
(3) Duration.
(4) Variation.

Consider a two-pump chump who claims to have a strong sex drive or high libido, because he wants it four times per day. He's missing three of the four pillars/dimensions. Content with a total of three minutes of sex spread out over four encounters, arguably, it's almost non-existent, but he thinks he's a stallion in the sack.

Before you go about trying to increase or enhance something, be very specific and purposeful about what that is - what you're trying to accomplish.