how do you get over someone...

I can't see how it is incorrect, it might be a regional thing.

EDIT: Tell a lie, I can see what you mean. But it can be read either way.

 

"You debate the moral dilemma of just pounding ones own mother."

"of just" puts the sentence in a present context, as though one is presently debating whether to pound one's mother at the current time. You need an adjective to state that the pounding of one's mother was in the past (given the example in my story) and that one is debating the act after it took place.

Not if one speaks and writes proper english and doesn't want to appear as though they're presently debating whether to pound their own mother.

 

It makes sense, you are being pedantic.

AS THE DAY DAWNS TO A CLOSE, YOU DEBATE THE MORALE DILEMA OF POUNDING ONES OWN MOTHER.

take just out, it makes it seem as you suggest.

AS THE DAY DAWNS TO A CLOSE, YOU DEBATE THE MORALE DILEMA OF JUST POUNDING ONES OWN MOTHER.

Include just, it can be reflective of 'just' doing something. I just ironed my shirt- I ironed my shirt recently.

the 'just' can donate many things

-I haven't ironed my shirt, I should just get on with it
- just iron the shirt only
etc

you cannot assume someone uses bad english, when it may look terrible written down. It makes perfect sense with correct emphasis of the word.

 

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But you forgot the "having", "Just having pounded..."

"Having" is what puts the act in the past context while the word "debate" puts the act of debating the pounding in the present context. So one would currently be debating a past act.

I suppose it can read both ways, however the way you wrote it leaves it open to interpretation as to if the act of pounding has already occured or not.

 

I just had a wee. No wait,

I have just had a wee.

This is stupid, I don't care enough to argue about such things.

 

Then why are we still here?

:bobby:

 

I dunno, piss off mountie

 

Limey sheep shagger!

Seriously though, as exciting as this is, I have to go now. I'm going to see a movie, something I haven't done in years.

 

lunar's right. "just pounding my mother" without including "having" sounds like "only pounding my mother" rather than "having recently pounded my mother."

 

lmao..I was wondering how enough people managed to read my entire long ass post to get 50 replies in this thread...Now I understand, everyone went off on a tangent about falcon punching and pounding mothers.....

that thought always keeps me from wallowing in self pity.

I really don't glamorize him at all. I know him too well for that. I'm actually the last person to turn a blind eye to his flaws. I've just always played the love him in spite of himself card. I don't think I've ever been in love with him, but I've come to love him so much as a person that its hard to let go. I've only been in love once in my life and nothing we've ever had can compare to that, but I've always felt like if he would just let down his guard it could get to that point. I guess I've just been sticking around waiting for that, and now I've got to face the fact that its just not going to happen. Your post did help a lot, thank you..it reminded me that I can fall madly in love again like the first time and its not going to happen if I keep sticking around waiting for things to happen with my ex.

Thank you for your response, heartache is a bitch isnt it? I haven't talked to him in a week and it does get a little bit easier every day. And something really good has came out of this, a friend asked me if i wanted to sublet an apartment in NYC for a couple of months and if I were still involved with his ass I would probably be afraid to leave for that long.so it appears a door has opened where a window shut!

I hope you take care too and that it gets easier and easier for you also!

oh thank god. a solution!

 

He is not plain right. He is just more right.

 

sorry for taking this off course a bit, I hope it all sorts itself out.

I wish I could add something constructive, but i'm in the same boat. I have an ex who drives me crazy, also. I don't think I like her like that, but she just pushes my buttons. It's a lot easier to tell someone to walk away from someone, than to actually do it- I mean, five years is hardly a small amount of time to spend with someone.

You seem like a nice person, I do not doubt that it is his loss.

 

ok, i'll give you that.

 

So much for that idea

 

i agree...both are great ways to get over an ex that is still in the circle of friends and is dating a new babe!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:mickey:

 

you 2 definitely nailed it

 

thank you, thats an awfully sweet thing for you to say I hope your ex stops driving you crazy!

lol don't you roll your eyes at me! if I go to new york i know someone who can give me a temp job, so it wouldn't even count as a vacation..which leaves me time to save money for a road trip to cali!

 

Thank you. And he calls himself English...