How Do You Get An Erection During A New Experience?

Hi guys,

before you ask, no I am not about sex unfortunately but I am on about two sessions with a mistress involving BDSM. BDSM has been my fantasy for many years (i am 18 atm) and a couple of weeks ago I thought I would go see a professional dominatrix and again today. However in both those sessions I have not been able to get hard or even come even though what happened during the session has been my fantasy for years! I watch videos but always fantasied doing it with a real women.

Today in the session I spent literally about half an hour or something jerking off but it only went semi erect and couldnt produce anything! I like womens feet so my Mistress decides to help me out by rubbing my penis with her feet, but still nothing happened! I have even gone 2 or 3 days on both occasions without have an orgasm. I even got myself on edge and denied myself before the session to build myself up but that didnt work either.

I posted on here before and I got the advice that it was due to over-excitement or something. I couldnt agree more. But, how can I avoid this happening again? I have already embarrassed myself 2 times, I dont want to do it a third time.

Is it the videos that putting me off doing it for real? Should I stop watching the videos like a week prior to the session?

Any advice would be appreciated as I do not want this to happen again! Please feel free to comment or email me on danjgoodwin96@aol.co.uk

Dan

 

Hi Dan.

I'm no doctor or therapist but I think you're probably 'overthinking' what's going on when you visit your mistress and then worrying about it too much.

If I was you, when you next visit her simply go with the flow. Relax and enjoy what's happening, rather than worrying about what may or may not happen. Let her take full control (which I'm sure she does anyway!) and see what happens.

And don't be embarrassed by your situation; I'm sure that she's seen it happen many times before and it's probably no big deal to her.

Keep us informed, RM.

 

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