How do you get a guy into your bed??

Acting funny...
Like we used to talk, and now he doesn't want to. He avoids me at all costs, like in the kitchen he didn't even say hi, he just left... Normally we'd chat. And he let me wear his jumper on friday then monday he just emailed me like 'I Need it back', no hi no nothing. Just straight give it back. I dunno... It's upsetting me cos I just want our friendship back!

 

'getting off', 'to get off' or someone 'got off'

these are all different british slang words for kissing

it depends on the context

but it's extremely common to hear it.

 

in the US it means to orgasm. hence my confusion.

 

Best thing to do is shrug and just let him get used to you again.

That and just leave him be on the sexual front, can't win 'em all Bitter.

I'm sure you'll find someone else. xxxxxxxxx

 

mm :/ But I just wanna fix things now that I know it's screwed up. I don't totally get why he's acting dodgy in the first place? HE said he wanted to come with me and HE kissed me first. So... wtf.

 

then he just dont have enough balls to do anything now

 

You acted strange and you came on too strong. You shouldn't have played jealousy games, that shows you are manipulative and deceitful. You should have just been with him at the party and genuinely showed him attention and affection without going overboard, and then propositioned him at the end. Certainly not gotten so drunk that you're flirting around with everyone. He probably was hitting it off nicely with that other girl until you came and I'm guessing begged him to go home with you, something that can completely kill the attraction in a person. I can tell you from experience. Hottest girl in school. I'm attracted to hottest girl in school. Hottest girl in school throws herself at me the second she notices I'm checking her out. Hottest girl in school is now, in my eyes, a complete tramp and waste of my time. I hadn't even uttered a word to her and she is talking about relationship with me, lmao. "Easy come, easy go". Also, really? Boob size? Are you 15?

Sorry if this sounds snarky but you basically did everything wrong at every step. Just be more honest and understand that you can't be with everyone you are attracted to, and when you debase yourself with these "tactics" and games it just winds up worse in the end for everyone, especially you. The only thing you're gonna win playing these games is a one night stand with some douche who's gonna laugh behind your back and brag about you as his sexual conquest to all your other male work friends. I hope you aspire to more than that. Be yourself and be the best of yourself and if that's not enough then he's not worth it.

 

act like you're not interested anymore and then cockblock him from this other girl. no wonder he doesn't like you

 

Very wise words. I totally understand it now. It's true, I shouldn't have acted that way. Is there any way I can fix the situation at all? Cos I wanna show him I still like him enough to be friends. I can't stand the idea of him hating me...

I didn't mean to "Cockblock" him... And I'm not usually like that. I have no idea what happened to me that night. I was very honestly behaving like a tramp.

 

Yeah, most guys need to feel a sense of accomplishment when they get a girl into bed, even if it is 100% fake. It's a game that smart girls learn to play.

 

I would have a popsicle or corn dog for a snack at work lol

Have a office mixer at your house serve tequila shots

Smile be flirty and cool about it all he might come around....if not more fish in the sea!

 

ugh, i'd much rather get my sense of accomplishment from actually accomplishing something, rather than succeeding at the world's most annoying game.

 

i think you've fucked it up. move on.

 

she probably has moved on. she's not the one that keeps bumping the thread.

 

look girl if u think hes outta yo legue he prolly is.
i wont ever get with a ho like that u know wut i mean riite

 

dude i checked out her page she's pretty hot man, could be a "but her face" though i dont know.

hey karen if your reading this, just take him out to the bar, see how douche'd out he is "constantly hitting on other chicks, acting like a jackass etc." get drunk w/ him, and take him home. and he'll know your not a bar slut cuz you work w/ him. just go to a random bar or something where most ppl dont know you very well so you dont look like a bar slut

 

i've definitely worked with some bar sluts before.

 

I get my boyfriend into bed without even touching him. But you weren't asking about that, were you?

 

Usually leaving a trail of sandwich meat works...

 

Or beers, bacon, video games..lol