How do you find time for sex?

This is more for married couples with kids...

My wife and I have an okay sex life, mainly filled with "quickies" and sometimes the "hot and heavy episodes" but our kids have gotten older, smarter and stay up later and my wife has always been the kind of person that poops out by 9-10pm and trying to stimulate her after the kids have gone to bed is a lost cause. Yet trying to get the kids in bed before 10pm (again as they're older) also seems to be a lost cause. Yet in the evenings when I get home from work it's not easy to just break away and have some fun.

So it's pretty much limited to the weekends and the occasional morning or late evening quickie. I know we will reach a time when they will just put themselves to bed and we'll be hands off, but until then I'm curious if any others have found a good solution to this?


Edit - My bad, this is the wrong forum... Meant for the relationships forum. If a Mod can move it that would be great, otherwise sorry!

 

You work on it.
I know people who set aside special time for themselves: not only for sex, more just to spend time together. It works for them.
It's hard: I never really was able to manage it as I didn't want to exclude my daughter, so for me, when I was partnered, sex was mainly after "lights out"

 

We work together and are able to sneak off during the day, we also have a night out together each week,more if we can get a babysitter, its important to set a time for you and your wife, tell the kids you need time alone, most kids understand,
We have family nights where the kids get to choose what we will be doing

 

I have the perfect house for someone with kids even tho I have no kids.

Its one original house with all the rooms needed and another house the same size built behind it attached. The second part closes off with a sliding door that locks and if you put a monitor on the other side (as I did for business purposes) you could do all you wanted and keep watch too but they couldn't hear anything. They could spend an evening themselves in the living room and you could yell over the monitor when it's time to go to bed. I am not sure why it was built this way because it was never classed as a duplex or a two family dwelling. It's a one family home.

I wanted it to have a business in and it works awesomely but in reality I hope if I ever sell it a family with several kids buys it because if I had kids I would want this kind of set up for sure. The nice thing about it is while business is running in the day time I could be fooling around in the back side of the house where my bedroom and all else I need is there, the shitty part is BF works all day and when he moves in I ain't gonna see him till at least supper time or later on some days,,, until I convince him to take on other work and dump this stuff he does. I'd like to see the garage he wants built and him in there rebuilding old cars like he used to do as a business when he owned his shop in town.

I think it's hard for many even without kids if both are working. His work is very physical so sometimes he is burnt out at the end of a day. Maybe down the road I can convince him to work in my business and we would be on the same level then like it was with my hubby, right now he has this thinking he wants to keep his thing going.