How do u get over being dumped

Hey thanks for the words. I understand what you mean there and I know I should have left town by now. It's just that I have always enjoyed Broome and consider it my home town and with an ex who I still have strong feelings for, it adds a complication! Plus I'm getting fat coz I spend too much time at the pub .... but that's another story. However I have enjoyed your wisdom and am going to move on and continue where I left off ........ wherever that was. I lost my mobile phone and she wondered if I had lost it deliberatly to deminish memories of her (it was a good phone, i wouldn't have done that - but I considered it) so I'm going to go and buy credit off her today to make sure she knows I have a phone and she won't have the number but I'll put it on my website anyway. She knows she can get it. I need to go to Perth for christmas but I wanted to go to the eastern states. Damn. I think I might actually do that and fly back for chrissy ..... I really don't want to be in Perth.

Thanks heaps and heaps tho!

How come ur so level headed?

 

I'm not saying move states, just don't deliberately put yourself in situations where you'll meet her. I believe you can live in a state with her and be fine. Put it this way. One day you'll meet a girl, get married and have kids (assuming you want that), in the least you'll meet the girl for you. You'll be happy and at peace and this girl being in the same state won't mean a thing.

This girl saying you lost your phoe on purpose, clearly likes to think she has a hold over you, she's playing with you and teasing you in a way that's both unfair and pathetic. I think, maybe you'll get sick of her games and it'll work itself out. You might have feelings for her, but i'm confident that you're moving on like i said. You still feel a certain way but that doesn't mean things haven't changed.
Hmmmm, the pub is fine just exercise. Do you have a dog? If not, simply walking to the shop to get a paper everyday is not just exercise but getting out of the house. Sometimes, that can be a struggle in itself.

 

The answer, which I've recently decided upon, is that you don't get over being dumped (note: I wasn't even dumped!) It's a breakup, and even that is shattering in itself. I like it how you see that she likes to think she has a hold on me - you're absolutely right. That's why I've decided to get a job here in Broome and stay until Christmas, just to get on top of her. She can't defeat me!!

 

Don't get a job to get on top of her, do it for yourself. Stop making her the focus. This is good though

 

Orright orright, I am doing it primarily for me, put also to get on top of her otherwise I would have waited until a got to perth or elsewhere.

 

At least you're doing it for you and doing it at all. That's the main thing

 

As someone freshly out of an intense relationship, let me say that it hurts. It really hurts. I'm saying this even after the most civil breakup imaginable. I hadn't cried in too many years to count, but I've cried at least four times in the last fortnight.

You cry. You wash your face. You blow your nose. You let people know what happened to avoid those awkward questions of "So how are you and....doing these days?"

You go out and try to meet new people. You take very good care of yourself, physically and emotionally.

 

Sage, I know what ur saying. I just wish I could cry ....... mine was also very civil.

 

Mine is like a slow motion car crash...I did'nt see it coming...17 years in the ending...Cry, cry, cry... sometimes that's all you can do...

Good advice...but so hard to do...it's easy to be come self absorbed yet not care for yourself... sometime your purpose in life just seems to go... and you start to feel that if one person doesn't want you, why would anyone else....

And I don't just mean "relationships"...I mean just about anyone...they say it takes time but I've met people that are stuck like this for years...

It's the loss of the dream, that hoped for future that's the hardest thing, I reckon...

Sorry I can't offer much consolation here...good luck though...