Ok! So I've always wanted a threesome. It's been a fantasy for as long as I can remember to have another girl join us in bed! I just don't know how to suggest it to my boyfriend without weirding him out. I'm not even sure if he is into that type of thing. Any advice? Ladies/Fellas how did you suggest a threesome to your man or woman? What was their reaction? Did the threesome work out as imagined?
It amazes me just how little communication there is between partners. How can you not know what he's into? Seriously? It really boggles my mind. You tell 'em once, you tell 'em straight. This is what I'm into, you dun like it you can geeeet oooout.
I agree with the above advice. You have to tell him straight up! You say "hey baby, would you ever be open to bringing another girl into the bedroom with us?". If you're super nervous, tell him over a glass of wine. The alcohol will help lower your inhibitions. I've always said, if I am not comfortable talking about sex with a person I am having sex with, then I shouldn't be having sex with that person.
She doen't want a 3some with him and another guy. She stated in the OP " it's been a fantasy of hers to have another girl join them in bed".
Becoming of age in the late 60's and early 70's. The time of free love, and no fear of std's. Threesomes and free love were easy to come by. If you are interested, find a girl, start out slow. Maybe you and the other female play, then let bf join in.
Ask him if he fancy's having another guy in the bed, when he freaks, say , well what about another woman? You will know quite fast
This is the 21st century. This problem can be solved slowly and methodically. Just start watching movies together and ease some of the titles into 3-way friendly formats. Once you cross the line into 3-way porn, the discussion can take a theoretical turn. One way to carry it across the line is to travel to a place where prostitution is legal and simply hire an expert, they're worth every dime. Otherwise the only advice I will give is to select a 3rd according to geography. If it doesn't work out, you don't want to be bumping into them at the grocery, liquor or yogurt store. As folks above have noted, communication has to advance in a relationship. Some issues can slide but others should be discussed. Easing into that discussion is sometimes the best approach, I would not presume to know the dynamics you have with your mate. If you do find a 3rd who works so well with the both of you, consider moving closer!
