How do I know I'll bleed when I lose my virginity?

I'd put off having sex with my boyfriend for about two months now since we started dating. When I told him about me being a virgin he went crazy and I'm scared that's the only reason he likes me now. He's constantly trying to escalate things now, he didn't do that before. So my question is, if we have sex, and I don't bleed, will he think I'm not a virgin and be mad? I checked and it looks like I still have my hymen. But I can't open it a lot. I guess when he sees how painful it is for me he'll believe me, but I read that if you're really wet it won't be as painful. And I get very wet even just thinking about him.

 

Can you get a tampon in without much discomfort?

Even if you don't bleed he will feel the tightness. How old are you? After a while a woman's hymen will degrade a bit.

 

19 and I don't use tampons, so idk if I can even get one in without discomfort

 

I’ve been with 2 virgins 1 bleed some and 1 didn’t. I don’t remember either of them have much pain or even letting me know if either had any pain. But that was 36 years ago, so maybe I just don’t remember.

 

Are you sure the fear of pain and bleeding is what is keeping you from having sex or are you doubting your feelings for your boyfriend? Sounds like he's putting a lot of pressure on you. If you love him and he loves you, don't worry about it.

I have been more than one virgin's first and only two bled. One said it hurt then said it quit hurting when I was all the way in. I believe the pain and bleeding is something mothers tell their daughters to keep their knees together. After the first time, most girls learn that sex feels as good for her as it does the boy.

Plan ahead. Do not use a condom. I had two break and didn't know until we were finished. That was a few weeks of worry about pregnancy until her period came around.

 

great points in your post Captain! The girl that didn't bleed pulled my condom off, I think when I pulled out, I had to go fishing for it.

 

Not everyone's hymen breaks or breaks completely. It's possible for it to just shift over, and snap right back I to place.

I didn't bleed nor hurt. If you're feeling unsure about his motives, let him go fuck himself. If you're feeling pressured. He can go fuck himself. Of course, you can do whatever you want, but you don't have to put up with dudes who trigger insecurity. Sex is so much better when you feel like it is easy to be yourself, stay in the moment, and not worry.

 

It's not great your bf is trying to pressure you into having sex when you're not comfortable. He sounds like a jerk and I would re-think going out with him.

If/when you DO lose your virginity, make sure you actually want to 100% and aren't pressured into it. And it's both normal to bleed or not bleed. To avoid bleeding as much as possible, engage in a lot of foreplay and get aroused. Arousal causes your pussy to both expand and get wet. On top of that, use lube or lubricated condoms. If there is a little bit of blood, don't worry, and stop if anything gets too painful. It took a few times for me to get comfortable with penetration.

 

If he's being an ahole about it, drop his ass"!!! I'm a horny guy but I would Never disrespect a girl like that...You don't have to put up with that