How do I get over my disgust for uncircumcised penises?

I don't know what it is but uncircumcised penises make me feel like I want to gag when looking at them, being asked to fondle them, go down on them, or interact with them in virtually almost any way.

It's maybe something I need to find less disgusting through trying or whatever, but to be honest it's something I don't know if I can or want to do. Sometimes a guy will turn me on who I find attractive --let's say at a public event one day-- and will turn me on with his wit, smile, face, body, dress, and overall personality.

When it comes to him trying to get to know me more or trying to get me into bed with him, I get disgusted if I find out he's uncircumcised and refuse to go down on him, beat him off, have sex with him, or anything for that matter.

I have to stop everything and ask that we not go forward with having sexual interactions any further. It's something about the guys hooded head or extra skin on it that makes me disgusted. Seeing it covered and soft is disgusting to me, and when hard and still covered it's the same way.

Skin hanging off of it is disgusting to me, I just can't stand it interacting with me, or being presented to me physically and visually.

I don't care to ask him to move it backwards or anything since I don't want to have anything about him thinking we're going to go forward with any sexual interactions like mentioned --and I shouldn't have to say that anyway or whatever. It's disgusting to me, lol.

What should I do? How do I get over this disgust? Why do I find it so disgusting? How do I allow myself to feel less disgusted by them over time or ever?

 

Pull the skin back, and it's a beautiful thing! And if your lucky, it will thank you for doing so.

 

I've never heard that from a female before or from anyone, for that matter. You are female, are you not?

 

Realise that's the penis in its natural state, not mutilated. How would you feel if your labia lips were cut away? We should appreciate the human body in its natural state, not some societal expectation from porn or a cultural basis. Enjoy that there is another natural facet of the penis you can explore. Enjoy that your man is intact.

 

It takes most guys a year to get over a circumcision, will you wait that long, and by the way not me I love my foreskin.

Why it comes as a set and best left that way.

 

Circumcised or uncircumcised, as long as it gets hard and tastes good, I'll take it.

 

Sounds like you have a phobia (irrational fear) that was caused by some kind of negative conditioning. It’s hard to imagine that someone could be that affected by the sight of a very normal body part unless they had been traumatized in some way. Did you once have an uncircumcised lover who beat you? Typically most people find the love, affection, and attractiveness of the man the penis is attached to more than enough to overcome any hesitation they have about his appendage. It doesn’t sound like the case with you. Being superficial about other people’s bodies is one thing, but being physically revolted by them is another. You’re reacting as though they have some sort of deformity or birth defect.

The only solution I see here is therapy (if it’s something you’re actually willing to address). It is possible that you can be desensitized to this type of aversion. Another option my be to stop being so adventurous (promiscuous). If you have regular interactions with different men, to the point where you are often confronted with dealing with a new penis you’re unsure about, perhaps you’re dealing with too many penises. And the last option of course is to settle down with just one circumcised guy who you like. Be honest about your aversion in the beginning and just tell a guy straight up that you have an aversion to intact penises. That way, you’re not wasting his time (or yours) if he is uncut. Good luck!

 

OMG !!Im the same way ! I am a very bi-curious guy and have never touched ,licked or sucked another guys cock,balls or manhole and i could never have anything to do with an uncircumsized cock !

 

Just limit your options to only dating Jewish or Muslim guys. You have a 99% chance of never being put in that situation.

 

My way of dealing with them was to refuse to put them in my mouth; lube it up and stick it in my ass and fuck me because if it's in my ass, I don't have to see it. The "good" part is that I didn't run into that many guys who were uncut until one day, when I was 50, I hooked up with a guy because I was seriously jonesing for dick to suck. He arrives, gets naked and... he's not cut. Fuck! We had agreed on the phone that there would be no fucking and, shit, I'd given my word that I was going to suck his brains out through his dick. I remembered what a lot of women told me about uncut dicks: Peel it like a banana. So, that's what I did and once I got started sucking him, I... forgot all about his foreskin. Had so much fun sucking him that I took his nut... and kept on sucking him until he gave up a second nut.

As I laid back to catch my breath and watch him sucking me, I was pissed thinking about all the uncut dick I refused to suck that I could have sucked, and that it fucking took me 41 years to suck one. Here's the thing: I still think they're the ugliest things to look at but I'll suck your soul out through your dick.

 

I'm not a fan of uncircumcised cocks either, but I love cocks too much to let it ruin my pleasure.

 

as some on from the uk im confused by this. everytime i see a sliced guy i go"hey would you look at that" because varietys fun but i really dont care

 

I can't help you with this because I think uncircumcised penises aren't very aesthetically pleasing!! Please don't give me any shit for this. This is my opinion and I am not trying to convince anyone else, one way or the other!

 

All of my man to man experiences, have ALWAYS involved only circumcised men! Perhaps I was just lucky...but thought that was

 

...the norm. While I do find circumcised cocks incredibly sexy looking...I can't say the same for uncircumcised ones.

 

One of my friends and I discussed this a while back. She had never seen or had an uncircumcised penis. Her first boyfriend was cut. Her husband was too. Later, when she started stepping out, she did it with her boss. Also cut. Then, her former classmate and then a cop who pulled her over for DUI. Then me. I'm cut. Then another guy who she met while he was fixing her roof. He's big and circumcised. Her current boyfriend is not circumcized and she had a difficult time initially even wanting to do anything if she saw it soft. But once the head came out and she got it hard, all was well. Now, it's a treat to get it all out and ready for some part of her. But it was a serious but kind of funny conversation when she gave me all the details.

 

My wife feels the same way, most females I've talk to say the same too. There is nothing wrong with that. To each their own.

 

My g/f loves to play with the extra skin pulling it back exposing the head, as she sucks.

 

Hi, this is my first post on HF and I would not have imagined it would be about our cocks but i feel able to comment as I have one and have been both uncircumcised and circumcised in my adult and sexually active. I was uncircumcised until my late 20's when it became necessary to have a partial removal of the foreskin. It was always tight but not a problem except it could b difficult to retract if I was modestly aroused. Eventually it tore and I was advised to have a circumcision although I still have a little 'collar' of prepuce around the base of my glans. I always liked my uncut penis an thought that one with an exposed glans was significantly less attractive so I can have some sympathy with the guy who posted the question. Sex both with my partner and masturbation was significantly different with a foreskin and after its removal but neither better nor worse. Several decades later, I still think my penis was prettier before. I have a photo of me naked my partner (wife) took and I love the way I looked down there. But let's be honest, the penis soft or stiff is not noted for its aesthetic qualities. None of my close straight female friends think that a man's cock is attractive no matter how much they enjoy accommodating one. Lover said she liked mine compared to the others she had seen but I am under no illusions that she thinks it particularly attractive and I can hardly blame her as I loved my hooded penis compared to its look now. I think you should learn from the example of the millions of happy sexually active straight women and love the person not (even in spite of) his prick!
PE - Straight, married, sexually active (in every sense) male aged 75
[Having visited Hip Forums regularly for several months, I felt confident to join and intend to post about health, body and sexual issues confronting us older men]