How do i bring it out of her?

Hi forum,

I am in a great relationship with a wonderful girl. I am kind of a testosterony guy, like sex a lot and I like a lot of sex. From time to time, especielly when she had a bit to drink, my girlfriend becomes an animal. She wants to try things, initiates sex 3-4 times per day, wears sexy clothing, goes down on me like I was candy.

However, I suspect she is like this on the inside all the time, and I'd love for her to bring it out more often. I have good reason to think she has a dirty mind and she often come up with ideas that would be awesome but we don't follow through - for whatever reason. For example, she asks me to finger her ass when we 69, tell me to slap her when I'm doing her from behind etc. I've never had sex in a car and she said we'd have to try that next time we were in the states (where she has a big car) but it didn't happen. Altough I want to do it I might be a bit chicken to bring it up.

I think she is a tad submissive and likes me to be "in charge" but that makes me feel like I'm pressuring her and I wonder if she enjoys it - and perhaps she doesn't get to live out her sexual desires either. How do I talk with her and start to communicate? I can certainly be more alphamale-ish in our relationship but only if she gives me thumbs up.

Any thoughts?

 

You have to talk about it. If you aren't comfortable sitting down and starting the conversation try texting her some things. See what she likes. My husband and I are pretty open and talk about likes and dislikes but sometimes he'll find pictures or gifs online and text them to me and ask me what I think. I give him the thumbs up or down. There have been times where I'll tell him "umm, no" but plenty of "yeah, lets try that". Maybe after one of those nights when she is like an animal you can talk to her about how much you enjoyed the night before and the certain things she was doing that turned you on. Start the conversation that way. Anytime you do the dom/sub play you have to have really good communication. She can't be afraid to tell you if you're going too far.

 

Yeah maybe we aren't too good at talking about it, but we do talk a lot about other things so its not that we aren't communicating. You think I should try to suggest a few "light" tings and see how she reacts?

 

Yeah

 

OMG OP, don't be an idiot. I hope you realize you're in a situation most men would kill for. Fuck this up and it's all on you!!!

My advice? Grow a pair and ride this out as long as you possibly can. This girl doesn't sound like "marriage material" but one hell of a fun ride for sure. So don't question yourself, don't second guess yourself, but damn it grab ahold of the reigns and go for a friggin ride!!!

I really hope you realize that this is one of those relationships that even know as good of a time as you are having you will look back on some day and say "Damn I so should have this, and that, and done this, and tried that, and stuck this in that and blah blah blah...." Seriously seize this opportunity and take it as far as you can take. My guess is she's going to bore of you or the situation at some point and move on (I could totally be wrong in that though), so by all means make the best of it while you can and go for the gold!