how did you and your SO first talk about extra sexual fun with others,

our started by my husband John saying while we fooled around that he wished he had more hands to caress me with,
the talk stayed like that and in the bedroom, then one day somehow it came out in the open and we weren't doing anything sexy,
months later, we met up with an old work mate of John's, and again in the following weeks on a Saturday night,
now as he had to past our place on his way home he started calling in for a night cap, then John out of the blue said what do you think of him, I asked how he meant and it came straight back "to help me caress you of course" I was lost for words but all the time this guy was with us my mind worked overtime,
then later on we were going through the foreplay and John said, see he could help me,
well after a lot of talking and weeks later he was invited into our bedroom and it was fabulous

 

While she and I had shared other SO’s or less significant others previously purely for sexual fun and adventures. I found it difficult to share her after we got married. That surprised both of us. FFM’s were easy for me, of course. But the first MMF we attempted was called off, ‘raincheck’, due to my emotions clouding my mind for lack of a better phrase.

We had talked long before about love and sex and separating the two. Sex is fun and you can have sex with out love, just for fun. But I had taken these vows and I was taking life and her very seriously where before, maybe I was just playing. Now it was real.

We talked some more, she reassured me that everything was the same as before, we were just playing and that I was not in jeopardy of losing her. she had been with many men and chose to marry me.

We rescheduled the threesome and everything was great from there on out. Emotional issues can pop up unexpectedly, jealousy and such. I was lucky to be with such an amazing woman who understood and comforted me, so we worked through it.

Interestingly this lead directly to what became sort of a tradition. We didn’t host at home in our bedroom. We got a room at a hotel and had our parties there. We kept our bedroom for just the two of us.

 

When we were dating and going to different colleges so that I only saw her once or twice a month, my future wife dated others and had sex with them until we were engaged to be engaged. I didn't know about the sex activity until she told me after we had been married a few years. It was obvious that she could have sex with no emotional attachment. I asked if she missed the variety, and she said, "not really." Several men were flirting with her at work, so I told her it was okay if she had one-nighters, but she had to tell me all about it. I even gave her some condoms to keep in her purse just in case she needed them. That led to a few adventures with other men, once for each man, until she decided not to do it any more.

 

We watch group sex porn, n she thought it would be something fun to try. I'd been with two women, but not another guy and a woman. At first she was nervous, but after everyone relaxed, it was a beautiful experience.

 

Our first talk came after her nights out with the girls. Some of the women she hung out with, were wild, and from what I had been around them. I would have never guessed, them to do some of the things they did. They would tell her stories, then she would come home and tell me. They had more to do with getting her to try sex with others, than I did.

 

Wellbutrin. It made her horny as fuck.

She started talking about her fantasies including DP and going to a swinger’s club. We did end up going to a swinger’s club but neither of us really wanted to swing. We’d been married 25 years and had a strong marriage. We went with open minds agreeing to see where it took us, but ended up being totally engrossed with each other the whole night. This place was huge, had mirrored rooms, glory holes, two dance floors, community rooms, community bunk beds, S&M room, a total of 69 mattresses, sex swings, etc but we never saw anyone that interested us. We fucked everywhere, but didn’t really notice anybody else. It was surreal.

It helped her express herself. It was amazing.

 

Long story. PM me if you're interested.

 

Wife was a 16 year old virgin when we met, hadnt done anything with anyone. Fast forward 15 years or so we were laying in bed one night and I ask her if she was curious about other guys. She was and that started us talking. Now we are in an open relationship and she is full on bisexual.

 

We both had multiple partners before engagement followed by marriage. From that point on our relationship became monogamous. There was no need to add others to our copulation or seek intimate encounters apart. We were more than happy having sex with just ourselves. Until her body failed and sex became painful. Emotions set in and to avoid the pain both physically and emotionally she chose to become celibate. As the years passed I eventually broached the subject of my own needs. Masturbation had become not enough as I longed for the feelings I get by being with a woman sexually. Deep discussion ensued and an agreement reached. I now find other women who will satisfy my longing for that lustful desire within me. She knows that I do but the details I keep within.

 

We actually have been talking about it off and on for years. It’s not something that just happened. Now, that we are in agreement to include others, the hard part is finding suitable couples to join us. That’s where the challenge is regarding chemistry.

 

We were asking each other what fetishes we had. I was just upfront and honest and said watching my partner have sex with others. She seemed pretty uninhibited so I didn't think it would be a huge shock. Maybe a bit of shock, but luckily more curiosity.

 

Oh I had the big NO on any kind of fun like that. So I just kept it in my mind on the couch

 

Yes and that how i got in to trouble cause I’m a slut

 

Started while we were dating. After we got more comfortable with each other and talking about previous relationships and our sensual fantasies. I told her first I knew I had a small cock and wanted her to make fun of it. Then progressed to comparing me to her other lovers of which she had many. She noticed how excited I got when telling me her lovers has bigger cocks than me.
I started to say I didn't want her missing out on great sex. That she would want bigger and better than me. She got confused and a bit upset at first. I explained I only wanted her to be happy and enjoy every aspect of sex and not miss out on anything.
Eventually she started to understand after asking me lots of questions.
I told her we would only do as much as she did or didn't want to do.
We decided to go to a daytime nudist swingers club. I kept reassuring her we didn't have to go or we could leave anytime she wanted.
Thinking she would only go for a look around and see how she felt. Everyone was naked an eventually
She started to relax and chatted to several men. I thought she liked the look of obe or two men.
While walking round we came to a glory hole room . She asked me about it and I told her what happened. She decided to go in one side and suck my cock through the wall to try it out. Before very long all the holes were filled with other men and she soon stopped sucking my cock. I left the room expecting to meet her outside but she didn't appear for about 20 mins. She said she was like a kid in a sweet shop.
She went in again later and ducked more cock. This time when she came out one of the guys she liked the look of walked over to her and thank her for sucking his cock. Out of the blue they started kissing and he lead her off to a private room and fucked her. I was allowed in to watch.
We have been to clubs several more times and are looking forward to going again once this pandemic is over.

 

Our first time was after she found out, I was having sex with another girl. She knew she had no strings on me. But wanted to know a few details. Later she told me she wanted to try sex with others. So we opened our relationship. Not married at the time.

 

We started reading the stories in Penthouse magazine's and that got us both thinking!

 

Read a few our self, you have a few good ones in your blog. Wish I could get my lady to share a few of hers, but she keeps that for me.

 

Hello! How are you? It sounds like you and your husband have engaged in consensual non-monogamy with the addition of another person in your sexual relationship. It's important to continue to communicate with your husband and the other person involved to ensure that everyone is on the same page and comfortable with the arrangement. Remember to prioritize your own feelings and boundaries as well.

 

We started during sex, when I was sucking her dildo vigorously.