how come u girls are fucked up?

i never knew i was fucked up,.... you learn something new everyday

 

I have never been attracted to assholes.

 

No reason to.

 

yeah they smell

 

I wasn't really referring to that.

 

men smell.

 

I agree. The guys treat them like shit and/or abuse them but when you ask them why they don't leave their reply is ALWAYS.... "But I love him".

You know what? Screw you. If you're not smart enough to leave a bad situation you deserve it.

Morons.....

Go ahead girls flame me. I don't care.

 

The same thing happens with nice guys and bad girls. It's life.

In my personal opinion, it seems like the successful ones in life, are ruthless, headstrong, people, fixed on one goal and will get there no matter what. That gives them a 'survival of the fittest' appearance, to which nature programmes people to prefer. Genuinely nice and honest people, don't get a look in, because they are often quieter (not always but often) and are often not trusted because 'nobody is that nice'. Society just doesn't understand 'nice' - well certainly not in my town.

The bad boys/girls will be with good/boys girls beacause the bad ones can dominate and easier convince the good ones of whatever, and the good ones can follow...maybe living in hope that they will, one day, influence the stronger party.

And also people will always moan. Even overtly positive people. Negativity is such an easy emotion to fall pray to. Especially when laced with "What ifs" and "Wish I had done's" and "...But I love you's". People with emotional pain and regrets, will always shout louder than those without.

All people are different, however most people have suffered, or are suffering from loneliness. Sometimes a person is so afraid of living alone, that they would rather stick with the devil they know, or 'settle for second best'. Be the initial cause of self esteem, or fear, you cannot possibly judge everyone.

I have a good friend who is stuck with a complete idiot. He abuses her mentally to the point where she lost her job because of him, and he verbally abuses her, and she rings me up in tears every couple days. Yet when she tries to leave him, he goes over board on the sweetness and light, makes her feel safe, and tells her nice things, so she goes back to him, and will literally not let her have her own head for a second, and a few days later he's back to the nasty creep he really is. When I ask her why she's still with him, every time, she always says "I honestly don't know...but he can be so nice". He is a nasty bit of work, she does know this and says it frequently, but he's like a cult she can't escape from, or he's the cat, and she's the caught mouse. See, again, stripped down its a form of dominance, and submission. One stronger, one weaker party....he's doing great so you have survival of the fittest. The thing we are programmed to go after.

You can't possibly say that it is anything to do with levels of intelligence. It also depends on the person's self worth, self esteem, and inner strength...and how much abuse they have experienced, and what they are subconciously being driven too.

 

Thats just something nice guys say

 

we're not all co-dependent, weak, miserable chicks.

oh, we're not all heterosexual, either.

 

Only the cute ones, right?

 

???

 

I get what Undefeated is saying. It's not true in every single case but it does appear to be true in many cases.

I, myself due to only personal experience, tend to be skeptical particularly when a female says, "I want a nice guy" or "I'm not attracted to assholes". Sure as rain falls downward, those ones are always attached with some nasty prick son of a bitch.

 

I found this article and I think it's a pretty interesting read. I have to copy and paste it...for some reason it's not allowing me to post the link. It's written by Josey Vogel- My Messy Bedroom

Nice Guys

"He's a reeeally nice guy, funny, considerate, a real sweetheart. I don't know what it is, but I'm just not turned on by him."

Sound familiar?

Why go for funny, sweet, considerate when we can go for indifferent, self-centred and manipulative? So much sexier.

Why do women love bad boys? Why is the sky blue? Some women say it's about the challenge and the excitement. Nice guys are too predictable. We want to love them, but the good girl in us wants to rebel. And since society doesn't like bad girls, we let bad boys bring out the rebel in us.

Most of us get over it.

But, given the number of guys I hear from who tell me they've spent one too many days in I-like-you-as-a-friend purgatory, some of us take longer than others. "Do I have to be a jerk to get women to sleep with me?" these guys ask me. I figure they deserve an answer. Especially being such nice guys and all.

But see, but this is the problem with a lot of nice guys. They're too nice. They're so worried about what we think, their own personalities disappear in the process.

get a little uncomfortable with a guy who is willing to do anything for me, especially if it means constantly sacrificing his own needs.

We all like to be catered to, but there's got to be a line where we end and he starts. If we don't see that line, it's very hard to respect a guy and believe he likes himself enough for us to like him.

There are reasons some women like to date boys more than girls (and not all of them have to do with sex). Believe it or not, there are a few male qualities we women quite like. For one, we are quite fond (and possibly even a little jealous) of the strong sense of self so many boys are taught to develop. We just hate it when it gets out of hand and he becomes an egotistical, self-centered boob. Unfortunately, we sometimes get sucked in.

Being nice does not mean being a doormat. Being sensitive means being flexible, but it doesn't mean he has to be putty in our hands. It means being able to stand up for who he is without being a jerk about it. Why is that so hard?

Maybe because it's a lot easier to whine about how nice guys don't get laid.