First you let him shag another woman and then you do the nag thing. Shag'n Nag. :rofl: Still cracks me up. Sorry .... you guys have fun. :sunny:
Thanks enhancer. That's my biggest pet peeve about our lifestyle. People think they can make assumptions just because it's not a relationship they would be into it. My guy and I have been together for 10 years, we have two beautiful children together, and we are inconsistently in love with each other. It doesn't mean our marriage is perfect, but we're both perfectly happy with it! Lol, I don't do that. As previously stated.
Yes you said that. I just had this image in my head. Nothing personal. As I said, you guys go have fun.
For what it's worth, my wife sometimes high fives me after her orgasm subsides (while I'm inside her).
You took that personal Mamma, I never said I couldn't wrap my head around Your relationship, I said I couldn't wrap my head around a relationship like that, it's my morals and it's me being honest, also it's conversation. If you are fine with it then my thoughts shouldn't trigger a request for me or others not to knock your style nor should it make you call out for others to come in on your fence to back you up. Not a lot of people will agree with such a lifestyle and yet some will, it's something that's very personal to me so I couldn't do it and am just being honest about that. Years ago I could have jumped into a few orgy style parties that went on around me, just wasn't open to it but some were. It's a sign TO Me, of someone in either a weak relationship or in-between relationships even tho there are probably other reasons to each. Not a big deal and what you do doesn't offend me but it's our right to say what we think of it. You don't have to defend yourself and neither do we. Sorry you read it as a personal attack on you but if we laugh we have Our reasons, like you might laugh at our style.
The above quoted statement is what struck a chord with me. My relationship is stronger than almost everyone I know, and I was monogamous for more years than most people twice my age. I've lived both lives, and this is the one we currently live. Making assumptions that people who are not monogamous are, "in either a weak relationship or in-between relationships" is extremely ignorant. I'm not asking you to participate or accept what I do, but I refuse to let anyone put me under a blanket statement. I'm not angry, just telling my side of the story. For the record, we're both extremely picky, and we have a lot of requirements. Anonymous orgies aren't our thing. We prefer connection mentally before physically.
I too am in the strongest relationship I have ever been in and it is the first one I have ever explored the lifestyle in. We trust each other 100%, we communiciate about everything without judging, support each other 100%, we are both confident and secure and our sex life together alone is off the charts amazing. A weak relationship is one where the communication is lacking, jealousy is an issue, there is no trust and lies and deceit are prevelant.
Then we both have strong relationships. I have never been the jealous type, never had the feeling I should be, just managed to be with one woman men and it must be the way I pick them for my style as it is the way you pick them for your style. Not wrong for people to say what they feel. If you slammed my style I just have to say why I believe in it which I did, not call on others to back it up. My relationships have always been strong even tho there were a few that ended over moves, a dope grower and a death. Right now I am in one that's strong and he made sure he said in the beginning,,, "No one else right?" he wouldn't have it which is right where I want him too. He even made sure I don't have any contact with X's and haven't done the fuck buddy thing as did I. Now remember, I didn't say there is anything wrong with it, I said it's not what I could do. And to Mamma, I didn't make an assumption of a weak relationship, if you read again I said and I capitalized,,,, To Me, it's a sign of,,,, you read my words as assumptions but they are only my thoughts on the subject.
I especially agree with this. Jealousy is imo often a sign of lacking communication in a relationship, and is more prevalent among couples that haven't been together for a very long time yet and don't know what to expect from the other half. When you trust each other enough after 10 years of marriage to bring other people into your sex lives, who the fuck is anyone else to judge? You may yourself one day change your opinion when you and your partner eventually decide to try out something different after X years of the same.
I think a certain amount of jealousy can be a healthy thing. Like if my man wanted a family and a life with someone else? Yeah, that'd make me beyond jealous.
I am not judging anyone here, but one concern I would have with someone banging my partner would be the Exposure Effect. In offices, in factories, in schools, it is common for people to become attracted to someone more and more by repeated exposure. Many affairs begin with people just getting to know each other better and better. Then all of a sudden an attraction builds and their current partners are old hat and don't bring the excitement that a new forbidden love does. I'm not the jealous type myself, but I hate hopping from one person to the next. I should like to keep the odds in favor of neither me nor my partner getting strong feelings for someone else. I don't believe in soul mates. I think anyone can be attracted to anyone, given the right circumstances.
I'm not sure what point you're trying to make, but it's really not that complicated.. If you don't like the idea of partner sharing, then don't do it. If it's something you and your partner decide to explore, then set specific boundaries and proceed with extreme caution. Pretty simple. Also, we don't just go around banging random people (not that there's anything wrong with that if that's what people choose). We only have sex with friends we know and trust.
I wasn't putting down partner sharing. I wasn't trying to make anyone look bad. I did miss my point. If a person can become infatuated with someone and possibly fall in "love" with someone who isn't their current partner just by working with them, wouldn't the odds of two people falling in love outside of their current relationship increase if they were having sex?
