House Guests

Over the past few weeks I have had some house guests staying with me. Family and in laws (who I love, really).

I find entertaining exhausting. I never get a moment to myself and feel as though I have to be "on" all of the time. This is compounded by the fact that I don't have a television or much in the way of entertainment. Getting drunk with everyone is only fun for so many nights in a row.

As much as I enjoy seeing everyone I can't wait to have the house to myself again. .

How do you feel about having company for a few days at a time?

 

I'm not a people person. Even when it comes to people I enjoy being around (which isn't many people), I still need my space.

 

don't mind it usually, if they're independent kinda folks and don't need me to always be around. not changing my life around the entire time they're staying just to hang out.

have a friend who had an uncle stay with her for a couple weeks and in her culture, that means she pretty much caters to him whenever she's home, and after work/weekend she takes him out.

my jaw dropped when she told me this a couple weeks ago. couldn't deal...family or not.

 

PR--No, you're supposed to help me justify being antisocial to myself.

Fitzy--yes, it wouldn't be so bad if my relatives weren't so TV-dependent and my apartment wasn't tiny! It's impossible not to be with them all of the time.

 

It depends on the type of people.

 

I know how you feel. A couple of days is ok with me, but after that, somebody has to go.

 

Frankly, I cannot stand my family. I couldn't imagine being around them for any more than a few hours, and even then it's tough. I envy people who actually enjoy being around their family. Even my parents, whom I love dearly, quickly get on my nerves, and it seems to only get worse as they get older.

 

I feel awkward - I have been a house guest from November and will be until late Feb.

I wonder if they are thinking all this about me...

 

Haha, I'm actually going to be a house guest starting tomorrow. I try and be considerate, and not too dependent. I give people loootssss of space, if possible.

 

Yeah me too. I help out as much as possible around the house, get out of the house lots and stay as quiet as possible.

 

I've been a guest, probably more than I've hosted people. I tend to socialize when asked, do a lot of cleaning and keep things organized, not just my area, but I try to do any cleaning I can, take some walks and time to myself, but I try to be available as well. Sometimes I find myself very tired in those first few days or so, I try to just chill and I try to have a good book or some writing to do, in case I can't sleep at night, so I can be somewhat on their schedule and not disturb their sleep if they're the type to go to sleep early.

 

All of our family lives close to us so if anyone spends the night it is usually because they are drunk and they leave in the morning. We host a lot of things at our house but don't really have many house guests for extended periods of time. My dad lived with us for 6 months while he was going through a divorce but it was no problem at all. We actually enjoyed having him around.

 

We have a studio apartment up above the shop so it's easy to stick them up there but what makes me nerves is my wife just rented it to a friend for 4 months. Now we just have the spare bedroom in the house

 

I don't really mind it too much, my guest room is on the other side of my house from where I am most of the time. So that helps. But after 3-5 days I am pretty much over it. Depends on the guest though. My dad is a great house guest for example.

 

All my friends come visit me. I went to high school in Virginia and moved back to my hometown San Diego right after graduating. So, for years my high school friends would fly out and stay with me. Now that I'm living in New York City, everyone wants to come visit and stay with me here.

Honestly, some guests just want to use my place as a crash pad while they explore and come home for dinner or whatever. And thats totally cool with me, I like being able to help them save expenses so they can travel and enjoy their trip with outings vs pricey hotels. Plus, we can visit longer because of this.

I used to love when my younger step sister stayed with us. She lived at my house for about a month one summer. She was/is the complete opposite of me (goth, heavy set, awkward, loves gory /scary movies, covered in tats) but it gave us great time to bond and we both took away some things from each other. For example, I learned about a few cool movies I wouldn't have seen without her recommendation. And she now is a bit more girly, wears the same makeup as me

 

Where in VA?

 

Yeah...I love house guests, I also love being a house guest, cause I'm really not into hotels. I don't like to stay by myself. There are some cool hostels, but more than likely when I travel I decide on somewhere I know people or I will look into couchsurfing. For some reason I feel better/safer camping, than I do in hotel rooms and it's cheaper! But yeah I love both sides of house guesting.

p.s. where in VA? I went to high school in VA too.

 

Charlottesville! I went to Albemarle @usedtobehoney

 

Charlottesville is nice, always enjoyed going there. I was one of those urban northern VA kids.

 

Ya I was a preppy white girl in C-ville. I loved it there, so much to do and sooo beautiful. The views are breathtaking, the air tastes sweet. Some of my favorite past times are on the creeks / rivers and 4 wheeling in my Jeep

So ya traveling is great. I love seeing new places.