I'm a great fan of partnered sex: the interaction, juices, eyes...the whole thing. But I have a suspicion that if we were honest about it, then the pure physical sensation of masturbation is higher. We are in full control of speed, touch, timing, stimulation without having to consider the other person. I might be way off beam here, but I'm looking for honest opinions about only the physical strength of the orgasm.
When I was younger, I totally would have disagreed with you and said sex with another is better in every way, as long as they are a good partner. Back when I was younger, masturbation was a means to get off until I could have sex with a person. I still think sex with another is more emotionally satisfying. But as I have gotten older, I have learned to really enjoy masturbation. I can spend literal hours stroking my dick and edging it. The pleasure is out of this world as I give myself mini orgasms. When I finally cum, the orgasms are so powerful. The ejaculation is huge and shoots far; a big glorious mess of lust juice. I feel so proud and satisfied at the end (and sometimes guilty of all the time I wasted lol). So yes I have overall much more powerful orgasms masturbating. And I can't wait to get home tonight and do it.
I’m going to have to disagree with BigRed. For myself, masturbation has always been a filler for between. Sure, it’s great, but for me, call me a romantic, but for a really good mind blowing orgasm is only possible with someone you have a deeply intimate relationship. Sure, fucking is fun, but fucking is fucking. Making love, for lack of a better word, is, to me, the pinnacle of sexual activity. I need the emotional connection. I need to hear her breathing, I need to feel her sweat, and I need her to need those sane things from me. I’ve been married for over 31 years now and I can say that even our “routine sex” is awesome. But our good love making sessions are, well, I don’t want to say religious, but calling out to God happens a lot! Making love is the most intimate form of communication between two people there is. This is just me speaking! But I know there have to be others who feel the same way. But yes, a good jerk off session can clear the mind and relieve stress and frustration.
Same for women. Much better than masturbation. Except it can also be great for me with someone only casually intimate with. Maybe that's just me.
When it comes to comparing masturbation to partner sex, I liken it to comparing food and drink. One cannot substitute for the other. In my virgin years, I desperately looked forward to the happy day I would finally squirt my load into a real vagina. My masturbation orgasms were often cosmic and heavenly. In my naivety, I believed that a vagina would necessarily deliver orgasmic ecstasy above and beyond anything I had ever given myself. How disappointed I was that night I lost my virginity. It felt as though I went right from thrusting to squirting with only a mild tickle masquerading as an orgasm in between. But I chalked it up to nerves of a first experience (she was a virgin also up until that night). But throughout our relationship, our couplings never resulted in climaxes as intense as the best of those I had going solo. On occasions when we had sex and then had to sleep in separate beds that night (because of college dorm life with roommates) I would always masturbate (usually fantasizing about the sex we’d just had) despite having just been laid. Years later, when I married (several partners later), I was having sex with the new wife at least three times each day. I figured I’d never have to masturbate again. And for three months I didn’t. But I felt more and more that I was being starved for something. At last, at three in the morning, I retired to the bathroom and rubbed one out. It felt absolutely divine. Sex with the wife was emotionally satisfying, but for full erotic satisfaction, I still had to add the tasty sauce of self-pleasuring. For the duration of my marriage (some 34 years), I masturbated at least once each day no matter how much partner sex I was getting. And yes, the solo orgasms, by and large, were more intense than the partner orgasms. This was not always the case, but it was certainly the case more often than not. Yet the partner sex was an integral part of my life that I always looked forward to. It’s the intimacy and emotional release of partner sex that makes it something to be desired for me, not the climax. Indeed the climax is often a let-down, because it means it’s over. Which is why I love engaging in cunnilingus so much, even though I have no climax doing that. I get the intimacy without any terminating event. And of course there is no masturbation technique known to man that can simulate the exquisite experience of having your tongue buried in your lover’s sweet ravine. Now as a widower, I very much miss having partner sex on a regular basis. I do have a girlfriend, but sometimes we go weeks between intimacies. So I masturbate a lot these days — usually more than once daily. I’m glad I still can at age 67. I continue to enjoy it immensely. When I’m at my girlfriend’s house, often after we’ve had sex, we’ll relax in the pool. And we have been known to each choose one of the jets in different corners of the pool and simultaneously enjoy the flow over our respective bits until we climax yet again.
The physical shapes of penise and vagina tell us a natural fact, that these two parts of bodies are formed for fucking. So, masturbating is the alternative ways. Honestly, if we have to chose sex with partner, or masturbation, naturally we prefer having sex with partener.
The orgasms may be more intense with masturbation (edging and such), but sex with someone I connect well with is better.
Whatever CalebDume said is fine, during masturbating we control fully our action and reactions for long time and enjoy as much as we like to continue. But, we are not able to control our body's reactions while having intercourse with our partners, and mostly ejaculate within a few minuts. So, for these resons, particularly, the old guys like more having solo sex than with a partner. On the other hand, masturbation is a type of addiction, if you addited to it you can't stop it. That's way all of us like enjoying both sex and masturbation. I have masturbated about 60 years since I was a teenager and after marriage I couldn't stop it, becouse I was addicted, so it is more than 40 years I have done sex and masturbation. As an old guy, now it is easier for me to wank than having sex with my wife, but if my wife likes to have sex I will be ready to give her a full services.
Having sex with a woman is the epitome of sex for me. I am able to control my body during intercourse ebbing and flowing with various positions and speeds. At my age I find it easier to prolong ejaculation than when I was younger. Since I don't have intercourse with a partner very often I cherish each and every time. Using the memory of my latest encounter spurs my masturbation sessions along with pornography and toys that are available to use. I have sex with a partner every few weeks and masturbate 5 or more times a week. It is neither easier nor harder for me to do either. Just different.
BidRed said it pretty well. When I was young, jerking off was what one did when you wasn't having sex, and it was all about getting off. I rarely got naked, usually just pulled my cock out of my jeans or just pulled them down and laid on my bed. As years went by that changed, I started to get into it more and it was no longer about just getting off. Today, I almost always get completely nude and get way more into it than I use to. It is true the feeling is more intense than sex, but sex is still better. But that is only because I have a wife that still likes sex and is adventurous.
Most of the guys who masturbate think like you. First, we masturbate to jerk off when we are around 10 or 12 years old. Later, we addict to masturbate even if we have sex with our partners. Even later after marrying and having sex with our wives or husbands we can not stop it. Besides the addiction, the pleasure of masturbation and partner sex are different. That's why many of us after fucking like to masturbate too. During masturbation, you take care of yourself and you control your body like the way you like, but fucking the other, you should take care of her or him, and you should manage many other physical and emotional activities. Masturbation and partner sex is not the same. These two sexual activities are the main part of our sexual life. Masturbation is not a sign, it is a type of sex, like the vagina or anal sex.
I agree, I can control myself much more than when I was young. If my wife follows me during the intercourse, I prolong the fucking session up to 10 minutes.
Masturbation is great. Certainly the easiest route to sustained pleasure and an orgasm. But sex is multi dimensional, intense, and can be mind blowing in a way masturbation isn’t. Nothing can match the feeling of two bodies entwined, fucking away
Oh. I like the thought of that. The heat. The passion. The lust. You are correct. Nothing matches having pure animalistic sex.
I agree with both of you, but many times for many reasons, having partner sex is restricted. In these circumstances, masturbation substitutes the regular sex partner. On the other hand, the pleasures of sex partner and masturbation are quite different, which we can not say which one is better than the other. These two pleasures should not be compared with each other. Many people like both of them.
As we all know masturbation is a glorious means of deriving pleasure whether you are doing it yourself or being assisted by a partner. And you can intensify it as you please. Conversely having sex with a partner and introducing any particular act or inanimate object which enhances the thrill, the excitement and the pleasure I think does enable a greater feeling of satisfaction and contentment to be attained. However, when feeling horny and no partner is available, then masturbation is a wonderful way to enjoy self pleasure and orgasm.
