Hitting on women

I'm not usually one to approach a guy & I'm really careful about the flirting too, cause I REALLY REALLY hate rejecting someone. I'm pretty empathic and when they feel hurt I feel it too. Sometimes it's no big deal cause it's a casual thing... but people are sensitive, they really are. And any rejection feels bad cause people take it personally most of the time. I wish it wasn't like that.

 

Like Rivers Cuomo??

 

Really , I *hope* I'm not.But yep I may have been called that...

If I'm asked seriously , I'll be completely open with someone.
Plus its just the way I am.I might fancy someone but know I shouldnt get in there cos of the probs it may cause.They might be the "full on relationship or nothing type" , so I might be wanting to be friendly til I'm looking for a relationship.
Plus monogamous relats and my work are sort of tricky at the moment..

 

it's been my experience that men in general are pretty scared of a woman approaching them. it did work effectively at getting rid of the scaredy cats when i was dating.

but now that i'm chubby and well settled, they don't seem so scared anymore. so i get the fooseball and joking without the poor guys getting the deer in the headlights look in their eyes.

 

I was playing with ya. But.. you gotta be careful though... lots of crazy bitches out there who'll hit you over the head with their club & drag you off into their lair.

oh yeah? what kind of work do you do?

 

he's a gay escort for british politicians.

 

lol! I think alot of men are intimidated by a strong woman. Too bad. I think the truly confident & strong men don't have a problem with a woman approaching them.

 

makes sense

 

KC , does Dave have upto date life insurance premiums for you by any chance....?I've got friends in low places , I'll have u know...

( whys everyone picking on me these days...?)

Never spoken to a crazy bitch in my life.Psychotically deranged ones?I've known many...

Just business.( neither a pornstar , mincer or gigolo)
The girls I have relats with , and the work don't get on.But it'll change pretty soon.

Altho , yeah I can work as a gigolo for the *right* money...

 

Monogamy & business don't mix eh?

 

LOL.Its complicated.Depends really on the business, and where I am in a process.Actually , its about commitment in terms of time etc u know?

BTW I love monogamy.
...just with lots of women...

( thats a joke btw...!)

 

me & monogamy don't mix. that's not a joke

 

Seriously , monogamy is terrific.
The associated time and sharing commitments just got me down in the past.

But people who have a different interpretation of it eg open relats , I think well good luck to em too...

 

Sometimes it's hard to "be yourself" when you are suddenly very aware of every move you make and every word you say...it's like trying to breathe normally when you are thinking about your breathing.

 

Do you want to talk? Or do you want to flirt?

I'm more comfortable when I don't build up an expectation of myself to follow linear/cerebral conversation patterns. Silences also go a long way in flirting, so there is no "running out of things to say."

You can also release yourself of the pressure to "be nice" when flirting, because part of it can be done teasingly.

 

works for me when i'm getting drunk. when i'm sober, i can't do it at all. then at about 3 beers my confidence soars and i become super witty and cool. then at about 4 beers i get too drunk and start acting a fool.

i did not mean for that to rhyme...



and kc, you're crazy. a woman who's willing to do the hard part for me would be the greatest thing ever. that doesn't mean i'm going to be charming, but the fact that she approached me would certainly not worry me.

 

I didn't know you were poly. :cheers2:

 

i genuinely like people. i know i misbehave fiercely here, but that's primarily because i'm so fucking nice. i get tired of being treated like the wise woman on the mountain. i'm a dumbass and people actually listen to me. it's grounding to misbehave. get it out.

for me, hitting on a woman is easy as pie. *snicker* for some reason, a woman just noticing something nice or attractive about another woman is immediate approval of necking. i don't know why. i don't care how hot the chick is. i can talk to pretty much any female or male. getting them to understand when it's not sexual is more difficult.

 

lol! I can totally relate to that.

Only a wise woman would say that.

yep. Isn't it nice when both people are sensitive to the vibes and know when they're clicking or not clicking on the same level? That way there's no 'splainin to do.

 

the few. the proud. the misunderstood.

hahaha!