His wife knows about us

Yesterday's turn of events may prove to be difficult for him to over come. My wife and I have had a male lover spending time with us 1-2 times a month for the past two years and his wife witnessed him and I sucking each other but waited to say something until after we were finished. They haven't been intimate for several years. According to him she had some surgery years ago which made intercourse painful for her and she'd never been one who enjoyed giving him oral. We'd always played at our house but yesterday I was helping him move furniture and she was out for a couple more hours so he invited me to their bedroom for some mutual oral playtime.

Well, he and I came downstairs and there she was sitting on the couch. Talk about an awkward moment. She says, "You two care to sit down and explain to me what I just saw upstairs?" We never heard her come into the house and obviously witnessed us. The room was silent...She says "Don't I deserve some explaining?" I began to speak up as she interrupted me to say "You're free to leave, I'd rather my husband explains".

I'm unsure how things are going to pan out with them and wanted to help explain everything to her with him. She didn't seem to be angry, but I'm all but certain she's hurting inside and very confused.

Should I try and arrange time with him to explain things to her with him or just let them work it out?

 

Now that the cats out of the bag, she may see the logic in the situation. I hope he explains it well. It could go either way. Hopefully you might have another partner or wittness. Let them work it out. Be open to discus things , if she would like. Who knows, she could wind up like my wife, who really enjoys M/M fun. Would you be willing to give her a repeat performance, so she could judge more fairly..

 

Ouch. Well it's their marriage, so I would not get involved unless asked by either to do so. If you can reach out to your bud once and say your just checking on him and if all is ok. And offer any support. Then wait. Hope all resolves ok.

 

My wife and I are hopeful he's able to explain things. I know for a fact he cares deeply for her but a man has needs. It's a difficult situation for sure. You bet I'd give a repeat performance...if only I get the chance.

 

It's been five days since the incident and I got a phone call from him yesterday. It was good to hear from him but his news wasn't all that assuring. He starts out telling me that he invited me to his bedroom with the intention of his wife walking in on us sucking each others cocks. It really bothers me that he did this as I would never have gone along with the idea. I asked him how things were going with her being she saw her husband having oral sex with another man in their bed. It's not a situation I'd like to be in myself. He told me they've been discussing the matter daily since she witnessed us together and she's trying to get a grip on as to why. She told him she'd understand another woman but is having difficulty trying to understand why her husband would want to and enjoy sucking another mans cock. I fully understand that. He then went on to say she has no intention of divorcing him, she's just trying to understand why he chose to be with another man. He closed our conversation to inform me that she gave him a blowjob last night for the first time in three years and she told him that she wants to meet me to discuss the matter with both of us. I let my wife know as I'm not sure that's a good idea. My wife feels it could help explain things more clearly to his wife but I'm a little hesitant as it's going to be revealed that he's not just sucking my cock, he's also fucking my wife too. I told him I'd get back to him by the weekend.

 

After some discussion with my wife she thought it best I go and talk with them since his wife requested my involvement in the conversation to try and better understand the situation she witnessed. Upon arrival he answered the door and invited me into the living room where his wife was sitting on the couch sipping a glass of wine. I greeted her and took a seat opposite her on the couch. There was an awkward moment of silence as we all just looked at each other. She started off introducing herself and offered a refreshment which I gladly accepted as she began the conversation. She said she hadn't been able to get the sight of her husband and I sucking each other out of her mind but also said she's starting to get a grip on it and understand how and why it happened. I felt a little more at ease hearing that as she asked me how long I've been sucking other men. Following my reply of 30 years off and on she asked what my wife thought of it. I told her she enjoys watching and occasionally gets involved as it's expanded our sex life and has also bonded us closer. This conversation went on for a couple hours as her husband and I explained how and why we got involved in oral sex with other men and MMF threesomes. She was very calm, relaxed, and interested in everything he and I had to say as she smiled quite often hearing some of the things she was hearing. She then says to me..."My husband says he enjoys sucking your cock and insists it doesn't change how he feels about me, do you believe that?" Of course I replied yes as she nodded her head, caressed her husbands thigh and replied "I believe it now too". All in all we spent almost three hours discussing the matter. She called it a night and closed the evening saying "Well, you guys provided a lot of information for me to absorb and process in my mind as I'm slowly beginning to understand". She thanked me for stopping over and discussing it with them as I said good night and headed home.

 

Well it sounds like it went well and she is still processing. But seems as if she starting to understand. Thanks for keeping us in the loop. Let us know how it goes.

 

If she is anything like my wife , she should be happy that he isn't having an affair with another woman. It seems like she may be wanting to see exactly what's going on next. I hope it works out for you Maybe she may be just as curious about another woman or just watching like my wife. My wife suggested that if it's just about the orgasm and quicky satisfaction, then let our friend give me a good bj. After giving it a lot of thought, I caved. I never thought I would be returning the favor, but it was the polite thing to do.

 

I must admit I was really nervous about going over there to talk with her. She went out of her way (IMO) to make me feel comfortable and stayed remarkably calm. She had stated she felt partially responsible having neglected him sexually the past 3-4 years. I quickly responded "That may be part of it, but it's not your fault he's had bisexual thoughts and fantasies". I went on to tell her that millions of heterosexual men have had thoughts and fantasies about same sex encounters which in a lot of cases has no bearing on how good or bad their sex life is with their present partner. According to the many conversations I've had with Tom over the past couple of years it was going to happen at some point whether with me or someone else. Yes, he's been sexually frustrated but understand...this probably would have most likely still happened had you not had the surgery which made having sex with him painful. She went on to say she's working on trying to not feel partially responsible and knows her husband has sexual desires needing fulfilled that she's unable to quench. I told her that she can and could quench and satisfy his desires without vaginal penetration but she must also understand he's bisexual and if she forces him to suppress his desires rather than accept them she may cause something neither of them want. They both stated they love each other and divorce is presently not on the table and she added she doesn't want him to change, she just wants to first understand it so she can then accept it.

 

I heard back again from Tom yesterday and he said things are going really well with him and his wife. He told me their sex life has been rekindled as his wife is opening up to pleasuring him orally and dabbling into anal sex as well. I told him I couldn't be happier for them both but had to ask how she was with his bisexual cravings and activities? He quoted her "If you feel you need to have/enjoy mutual oral sex with another guy to satisfy your sexual needs, just please don't be out with multiple guys. The guy I saw you with seems like a nice man after having spoken with him". Well how about that I replied...That's great news. We didn't make any plans but he said he would be in touch and added that she is ok with us playing at their house from time to time and is open to "possibly" watching us together any maybe learning something. WOW...That would be great!

 

Great for you guys! Now , if you could only get the wives together to get involved in some manner.

 

This is such a hot thread!

 

I know for sure my wife who does participate with him and I every now and then has no desire to have sex with another woman, she's stated that numerous times to me.

 

How would your wife feel if you played with him and his wife?

 

That's something we're going to have to discuss. I'm sure she'd want the same ground rules...Tom has never been inside my wife's vagina, she'll 69 with him and when we team her he gets her mouth. His wife doesn't enjoy vaginal sex as it's too painful since her surgery but is discussing the possibility of anal sex. I really have no desire to have sex with his wife...I'm just hoping he and I will be able to continue sucking each others cocks from time to time with her approval. If she wants to watch ok, but if not that's ok too. She's had to deal with a lot since catching us in a 69 sucking session and is coping better than I expected.

 

My wife asked me last night if I'd heard anything from Tom and his wife. I replied "Nothing more than what I'd already told you babe". She goes on saying she hopes things work out so the three of us can play together again soon. She then proceeds to say "Since she stated she's ok with you guys playing together, do you think she'll want to watch or join you guys?" I told her that Tom said she's mentioned that watching us play together is not out of the question as she did already see us orally locked together once for a moment. My wife then says "You know if it would help her to cope, you're more then welcome to join the two of them in bed as Tom does with us". I reply to her "You're ok with me having a three some with them?" She says "Why not, you guys do me...I love two cocks at once and being actively involved helped me cope much better with your bisexuality". I was really happy to hear her say this but told her that I'm not going to push the subject as that needs to be something they would like to do and must be the one's asking. She says "I'm just letting you know that if the subject comes up and she's interested by all means join the two of them". Babe, you are awesome I said. She even offered to speak with her about coping so I'm going to have to contact Tom and ask if his wife would be willing to chat with my wife. Who knows, maybe it'll help if she talks it out with a woman who's accepting and involved in her husbands bisexuality. I like the idea and also think it would be of some help to his wife.

 

How badly are you craving your buddy's cock?

 

It might be the lying she will struggle with. Cheating ruins trust, and if he had other interests, while it might not be easy to share those interest, she will probably be most upset with him lying and sneaking around behind her back. If you don't have trust in a marriage, what do you really have?

 

Pretty bad since it's been on my mind a lot these days and I may never get to enjoy it again. It's totally up to his wife and I'll respect any decision she makes on the subject.

 

Well, now I can provide a closing story to this thread. Tom and his wife invited my wife and I over so the wives could discuss the situation that Tom's wife witnessed her husband and I doing. Upon arrival we're invited into the living room where Sarah (Tom's wife) was sitting having a glass of wine with a bottle and three other glasses sitting on the coffee table. Introductions were made as we all sat in the living room as Tom poured the rest of us a glass of wine. Sarah opened the conversation rather quickly by asking my wife how she has come to accept and deal with her husband being with another man while in a committed marriage. My wife responded with something like this. My husband (me) told me early on in our relationship that he'd been with other men to experience and enjoy providing each other with mutual oral sex. I did not think he was that way but knew a lot of married men, especially those in there mid 40's stray into it out of curiosity. My wife said she wasn't shocked or disgusted as I was open and honest with her even knowing I had kept it hidden from my first wife for many, many years. Sarah responds with, but Tom has kept it secret having been involved with the two of you behind my back until I witness our husbands naked sucking each other in our bed. Are you sure they are not gay and faking everything with their marriages to us? Gayle (my wife) responds after a slight pause...Our husbands are not gay, they are both committed to us in their marriages as I know both of them quite well. My husband loves me and prefers having sex with me and is a terrific lover but he also enjoys sucking another mans cock on occasion. I thought it was brave for him to tell me this and honestly also found it to be quite a turn on knowing we both have something else in common, we both enjoy sucking dick. Now, your husband (Tom) was keeping his desires hidden from you as he's told us your sex life is zero since your surgery. He's got desires needing fulfilled that were neglected and wanted more than anything to have your sexual relationship return again but you've been unaccepting to sexually please him in other ways outside vaginal penetration since it hurts so much since your surgery. Gayle also added, Tom should not have made you aware of his desires in the manor in which he did allowing you to walk in on the two of them but he did and now you know so being the two of you are not wanting to divorce you need to make yourself available sexually to him to satisfy his needs with blowjobs, and consider indulging yourself into anal sex. Sarah than says she has been sucking Tom's cock more and more lately and it's sparked a fire inside her to enjoy doing so and she's also allowed him to finger her ass while in the 69 position as he's been able to provide me with an orgasm with his tongue. She also added that the two of them (Tom & Sarah) have been discussing his desire for cock and have been watching a lot of MMF porn and she does find it to be quite erotic that the two guys not only pleasure the woman but they also pleasure each other so I agree I need to allow Tom to satisfy his bisexual cravings with your husband and have also discussed with Tom that I'm open to becoming involved eventually but for now maybe just being present to watch the two of them satisfying each other from time to time while I expand my willingness to satisfy my husband in ways other than vaginal penetration.

Over all the discussion went better than any of us thought it would and Sarah is accepting the situation and in time may become an active partner but at least for now she's accepted her husbands desire for cock knowing his main desire is a sexual relationship with her more often as well as a cock from time to time. She did admit the two of us (Tom & I) have very sexy cocks which my wife also agreed. She hadn't known Tom completely shaved below until she witnessed him and I together and finds it very sexy and entices her to suck him off more often.