Hip matchmaker.

-an asshole can be a wonderful thing. if and only if their personality of "asshole" is self - labelled and a confession of knowing one's own faults, or issued jokingly by people who love them and call them asshole as a sort of loving gesture and acceptance of your nature which is more aggressive and righteous than most people can tolerate.

 

Thank you. I needed a woman to explain that. Being an 'asshole' everybody thinks i'm biased.

 

There aren't many assholes that don't make me feel insecure. I know tons of nice guys that can be "that guy". Usually girls that just want jackasses are jackasses themselves. There are several "tough guys" that melt and cry in the face of danger....just watch cops.

If guys don't seem interested I blow them off or I put them in the friend zone.

 

I haven't either, though I have come close, I do believe.

It's hard to explain, but the basic trick is to let them know, indirectly, that you have other options and you're going to be hard to replace. The hard part is doing that gracefully and without becoming their bitch.

 

i'm an asshole, too. i only whip it out for special occaisions.

 

you know, neither dave nor i are perfect specimens of glorious humanity, nor are we perfect examples of the best of our relative sexes. HOWEVER, we do pretty freaking awesome together. so you don't have to get it right for "THEM." you've gotta get it right for "her" or "him."

 

well you need to get it right for them in order to show her that you have other options...

 

Again, you're pretty atypical.

Plus any "tough guy" that breaks down crying on national tv is a chump who just earned himself the right to be fucked in the ass by his celly when he gets where he's going. Those motherfuckers watch cops CONSTANTLY. They're also not tough.

The nice guys that can be "that guy" used to be "that guy" at one point in life, almost always.

 

Bingo.

Just like it's easier to get a job when you have a job, it's easier to get a girl when you have a girl.... or atleast appear to have a girl. i don't mean pay some bitch to pretend to be your gf, but when girls are always calling you or hanging on you, it's obvious to other women that you have something to offer and that somewhere in life, you are doing things girls like.

Why would a girl want a single guy who is never around girls? Obviously he's fucking up somewhere or he wouldn't be single in a sausage fest at all times.

 

I second that.

 

piaf! baby! its been awhile!

 

if you get it right for her, you won't have to show her you have other options.

 

Cate!!! Darling....I still dont have a match

 

Youre mine.

 

EXACTLY!

 

Awww...I am glad you said that cause right now I find guys here so lame...

 

AWWWWWWWWWWW! hugs n kisses. who needs em eh?!

 

Well I certainly dont !!!!
hugs n kisses to u too...

 

i guess... maybe it's just easier to blame being nice than to admit that i have nothing to offer...


i just don't see how i can be getting it that wrong if everyone wants to be my best friend... do i just keep getting it almost right but not quite? and if that is it, it still seems to me like it's the fact that i'm nice to them that finally drives them away...

 

I agree with 99% of what you say, but not this. Not this at all.

Any guy can get it right for *her* at a given point in time, but women are not stable creatures, are they? To get it right for *them* means that if a woman starts to change, you'll still be able to fill her needs and make her feel special, etc. To get it right for *her* tells her that you know what to do or say at a given moment, but doesn't indicate any real qualities that shows your long term potential.