I talked to a good friend, Sara, from high school (which I graduated from nearly five years ago). We were the two chicks that smoke pot with the guys after school and go steal "For Sale" signs out of people's yards and put them in other yards in the middle of the night. We used to party it down together...great times. Then she met a boy and I was put on the back burner. Haven't actually seen her in probably a year and a half now... So I talked to her last night over the phone...and she tells me that she's taking a semester off of school because she doesn't want to be a nurse anymore and she's happy with the work she's doing now. Like she has no ambition for anything else... Not only that, but she says, "Well, Brian (her boyfriend) and I have been thinking of getting married and starting to have kids. I want to be a stay at home mom anyway, so there's no use of me finishing school right now." WTF??? Has this girl completely lost it? I miss the kind of person she was back in high school! She was fun and she loved life...now she seems to be living for her boyfriend and not having much ambition for herself in terms of a career and school. Don't get me wrong, being a housewife is work itself, I know that. BUT, she was never that kind of person to settle down like that. We talked of traveling the world together and not getting married until we were at least thirty. I worry about her...and I miss the way she was. I guess we've grown apart. Kinda makes me sad...
Hi DancerAnnie...i know how you're feeling...i've been there a couple of times when i was younger i had a really good friend, we spent all the time together doing silly things but had so much fun...then she met a guy, to make a long story short...not long before they got together i was part of the background and she had got pregnant and was getting married in october..so what happened to everything that she wanted to do? she wanted to be a professional singer, finish school and go to sweden....she's now 25, has three kids and lives at home with her parents and husband. i'm a bit worried about my current best friend. she's been in love with this guy whom she married (legal reasons, for his work permit and stuff) and the guy keeps comin gin and out of her life. she has so many dreams and so much potential, she's a really clever, caring, beautiful person and this guy keeps fucking with her head. he's back in the picture now, staying with her almost every night and she's now hinking of taking him back...why would that be bad? when they were together, she didnt care much about anything else but making him happy. what about her? she was happy being second is love supposed to be that way? i have serious doubts about that.
That sounds terrible... I've never actually met Brian...never had the chance...I dont know, he could be the greatest guy in the world...but whatever happened, changed her..maybe it's a good change? Maybe I'm the one that needs to grow up? It's making me question a lot of stuff that happened in the past, and the stuff that I'm currently involved with now...
yeah i think we're kind of in the same boat...this sort of experiences also make me question things about myself. perhaps I'm in the wrong here but its a bit sad when i look around me and most of the people i know are in long term relationships and i havent been in one ever. but i'm sane and thats what matters i guess.
This situation sounds a little familiar. My best friend throughout highschool was an awesome person. We never fought...we got along great. We went to different colleges, but were still best friends. Then she decided she was bisexual, and got into a relationship with some chick at school and completely changed. She started turning against me and I could tell that the things she was saying to me were really ideas her girlfriend put into her head. Needless to say, after only one fight ever in our lives, we stopped being friends for good and even though I've tried to get in touch with her, she doesn't want anything to do with me. She's a different person now. I hope she's happy...but I wouldn't even know, because she won't talk to me. It's been almost 2 years now since we've talked, and we were friends since kindergarden... It's so strange how people can change so suddenly.
I hear what you're saying Annie. However, I just had a whirlwind relationship and got pregnant right away. I was enrolling in college when it happened. All of my GF's were totally supportive but only if I decided to have an abortion. When I decide to have my baby and stay with it's father, they got really nasty and totally abandoned me. I had to make a decision and I feel like I made the right one. I am married now and so very happy! Sometimes peoples priorities change! I guess all I can say is, grieve for what you lost but be careful. Try and be supportive, because it's her life and if she's happy, shouldn't you be happy for her?
