Hi, I'm 58. Scared but taking a step. I'm so confused about my sexuality. Love women but crave men.

What's my next step? Please help!

 

I'm 44 and in the same boat. I don't find men attractive. But I do love the idea of sex with them. I've played around a bit with guys when drunk. But the urge to explore more is high atm. I dont get much in the way of sex from my wife so my masterbation has become more frequent and usually involves being on cam with a guy, or watching porn. Have you tried camming?

 

No. I haven't tried caming. I have watched lots of bi porn but it doesn't do the trick. I'm single in a small town so that doesn't help at all. Not lots of outlets for me. I think I just have to tell everyone and hope for the best.

 

Thank you Curious44

 

Welcome!

Dont be scared sweetie,love is beautiful...I think its even more so with the same sex because you are not poisoned agaisnt it by fake religons..

Just take it slow an when you meet the right one,you will know


God bless you .. Its good to have you here!!

 

Message me please asap

 

Based more after the topic title, my initial reaction is to offer support. I think when it comes to being sexually active, there is a tendency to refer to our previous sexual encounters.

But when you endeavor to make a change in your orientation, it requires an entirely new dynamic; a new set of rules and obstacles.

Like the difference between riding a motorcycle and driving a car, the road is the same but the way you drive is going to be different.

The best advice I can give isn't based on my experience but rather in some knowledge about how people communicate romantic feelings (it isn't always about sex).

A question I would pose for you, or for anyone who is confused about sexuality is "how do you want to be loved?"

Possibly something was missing from your heterosexual experiences, and naturally you saw another option and are now expressing desire or curiosity.

And maybe when you have the answer about "how do I want to be loved?" it will be just as applicable to heterosexual relationships.

One thing that is very important to me is that there are social norms in my family, places of work, and religion that do not offer much flexibility or insight with regard to alternative sexual orientation. That makes it important to be aware of the consequences in those areas.

 

I'm 50 all the same, some one pm me we cash n talk

 

My question would be what makes you think you need to tell anyone at all? You don’t hear straight guys going around professing their straightness. Just go out and find you a cock to suck and be done with it. Nobody needs to know your business. Also, even though you think there’s nobody available in your small area, trust me when I tell ya, we’re everywhere.

 

What site do you use for camming?

 

Man so many of us later in life in this situation. I know exactly how you feel as a still love a good looking fit woman. But I also love a good looking fit man. For me sex with a woman its about pleasing her. Yes I get pleasure fucking a nice wet pussy all while feeling her curvy body.
But when it comes to men it seems like complete pleasure and satisfaction for me. From getting a good blow job to giving one, then the cock on cock action is so pleasing to getting my ass ate out getting me ready to take a nice hard cock slow and deep into my ass. Unbelievable pleasure that I receive from men. Feel free to dm me

 

same from uk here

 

happy to chat with anyone

 

Welcome to HF! Hope you get replies to help!

 

You might try this. Write an explicit story about a fictitious gay encounter with another man. I generally use a class reunion was the venue for the story line. The first draft will probably be dull and uninteresting. Save it as a draft, and return to it in a day or so. Then heat it up with enhanced erotic dialog. It helps to include non sexual experiences with another males a template to make it more personal. I actually find that I get aroused by the third or fourth revision. I like you, have not had sex with my wife in 21 year. She is not interested and my sexual acuity is for the birds. There is no way out without risking my marriage.

 

One scenario that worked for me, was a theoretical Trout fishing trip wherein I was by my self and went down to relax in the Jacuzzi with my trunks on. A young man came down who had a girlish appearance came to the spa, removed his trunks and sat across from me. He had shoulder length blond hair and smooth skin. We started a conversation and he slid closer until our legs and hips made contact. I will leave the rest up to you. Good Luck.

 

Tough situation. I can relate. Reaching out here is a start. It at least gets the wheels turning. And it gets you in contact with similar folks but not necessarily guys near you you're meant to meet up with, if you choose to go that far.
These must be brand new feelings for you. Maybe these are feelings you are only now aware of. Maybe these are feelings you are only now allowing yourself to have. I'll take a stab in the dark and guess you're dealing with some internalized homophobia, which is nasty! That comes up with me from time to time, I have to admit. Rationally all good people realize there is no difference morally between attraction, activity, commitment, etc. with the same sex and the opposite sex. You like what you like and that's all there is to it. But years of "but it's wrong" from various angles of society from birth are hard to overcome, they really are!
I guess the next step if my assumptions are correct is to work on normalizing your feelings. Don't let toxic masculinity and religious bigotry impose on your identity. Give yourself permission to like guys whether you actually do or not and fuck anyone who says otherwise.