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Whats up with you Guys ? you meet up with people everyday in real life so why not ( if you get the chance ) people who are hip forum members ? I have met people off other forums I post on and mostly ,if not always the experience has been a positive one .
Only people I would not really be interested in knowing are the ones that post obvious Bullshit in order to make themselves out to be something they are not ( like the special forces guy with his team of commandos in Iraq ) But these people are generally sussed out by the other forum members and either ignored or ridiculed and therefore dont last long here .
Most of us are I believe What we are and thats why we get on ( fairly well ) on here !!!
Thats why I have no Problem with meeting Hip posters !

Anyway I am an axe murderer and need more victims

 

I agree with you Mally. I think its really sad that people are/are supposedly "big friends online" with others. But never meet/whatever. For some I suppose its because they bullshitters and aren't what they claim to be. Others, maybe its some form of agoraphobia or whatever. Either way, I feel thats kind of sad, and sometimes even a waste of time in people's lives. I also kind of thing its this phenomena thats causing (more verifiable, RL connected) Facebook type sites to replace generalised global forums in some ways.

 

Hell, people can be vastly different from this website to the next. A few people who I used to get along with really well here got together online elsewhere and in a smaller and more "private" setting,the gloves came off and it was easy to see some were batshit out of their mind crazy, some were sociopaths,and some people pretty much stayed the same. It's weird how the crazy didn't manifest here like it probably really could have. I imagine if we all met in person, it'd be a matter of time before I was able to figure out even more people my personality just isn't compatible with.

 

To be clear, I didn't say I wouldn't meet anyone here. I said it would be highly unlikely because I can't see very many scenarios where I'd just happen to be in the same area as many of you guys.

With the other site I mentioned where people meet up all the time.....it's much easier because many of us listen to the same type of music and travel to see some of the same bands....so, for instance, a bunch of us are already going to be in Chicago or wherever....going to the same show....it's pretty easy to plan a meet up. Happens all the time.

 

In rl, I'm shy... quiet.... I don't drink or smoke.....I'm nineteen years old and blonde and anorexic and rich!

lie lie lie lie lie

 

that's just it; i meet people all the time in real life and i don't really want to add to that list.

plus, you know, distance.

 

Thats Why I put In Brackets If you Get Chance

 

I met someone on here. A woman. She was what she looked like in pictures and sounded like what she sounded like on the phone. So yes, in a nutshell. Didn't see her character flaws until I got there though. Which while it wasn't pleasant to go through, I learned a lot about who I was and what I was willing to tolerate. A learning experience.

I recommend EXTREME caution if someone plans to date someone they've met on here, or anywhere online. I'm sure that it'd be a great time to have a bowl or brew with some of the people I've talked to on here. Just gotta be careful. Anyone could be anyone. I'm sure you're all great though.

 

Excellent advice. I've known a few people to jump right into living with each other immediately after the first IRL meeting, and honestly, it's MUCH easier to get to know a person's true self in person after a period of time.

 

I definitely use a lot more verbal and social filters in real life than I do on HF. There may be a few people on here who most likely dislike me for my opinions and post history, but I bet most everyone on here would see that I'm very chill and social if I ever came into contact with them. I typically avoid arguing and verbal conflict in real life.

I haven't met anyone on HF, but I've met people from other forums that I used to go to. Everybody I met had a similar personality to their online postings, but their tact and behavior was usually very different. There was one guy I met from a forum many years ago who always typed his posts in very cryptic metaphors and fragmented sentences, yet he had a very stunning vocabulary. He seemed to get very aggressive and crazy if he read something he didn't agree with. Most of his posts consisted of unfiltered rage. If you read his posting style, you might think this guy belongs in a mental hospital. His worldviews were vastly different from mine, yet we decided to meet up anyway and we got along quite nicely. I was surprised he didn't speak the way he typed.

 

Remember when we went to the hotel bar after supper, and you told my girlfriend, who happened to be working there that night, that we were "perverted people from the internet"?

Fuck, was that ever funny.

 

I probably come across as more serious here than I am in real life because I enjoy coming here to discuss various topics. In real life I am pretty playful and rarely serious, but I am pretty quiet and reserved when I first meet someone so basically if I met some of you, like PR, who are also on the quiet side it would probably be awkward as shit and we wouldn't have a word to say to each other initially.

Once I warm up to someone I am pretty outgoing and fun. Some of you I would probably feel comfortable with pretty quickly. I feel like I could get along with most of the regular posters here in real life which is part of what keeps me coming back

 

Looks like aireanne deleted my post. lol

I'd hang out with you pressed rat. We could drink craft brews

 

no one even noticed the one i met disappeared


oops i said too much

 

Most of the times I've met up with people from that other site have been fairly laid back (basically because we all know each other and if it's someone who we haven't met in person....it's usually still someone who we interact with all the time, have seen pics of, are friends with on FB, etc.) Interestingly enough though.....some of the more awkward moments have been with people who are lurkers. I am very well-known on that site and there are plenty of pics so once in a while, at a show, someone approaches me and says something like "Hey....(username)!! I am (username) on (that site) but you probably wouldn't know me because I'm basically a lurker. But..um...yeah....I'm a fan of...um...your posts though." That's a little odd and then I feel like an asshole for not knowing who they are!

A few years ago, we were in Wisconsin for a show and having lunch at a very busy place. Out of the blue, a well-known member of that site (who we hadn't met yet) walked over to our table and said "This might sound strange but are you guys (so and so) from (that site)?" Yes. Yes, we are....and it was great to meet her. Wonderful person.

 

Regarding other people on this site.... Yeah I have an assumption on what the type of person some of you are. I've had good discussions with some, and nasty disagreements with others. When you see a certain person's post qualities consistently enough, you can't help but make an assumption about their identity.

 

I'm like that too. Breaking the ice with new people has always been a step outside my comfort zone, unless I'm introduced to them by someone I know and trust.

 

hip cons? fur cons, sciffy cons, even train cons, but hip cons?
(only way i know about in real life to satisfy my curiosity about people i've met first on line)

 

It would be interesting to see how avid social media/forum users compare to other demographic groups.In particular, the prevalence of behavioural disorders etc. My strong suspicion is that generalist forum users probably show a higher instance of such disorders especially substance abuse etc.

Anyway, I got to know someone I first came across via a web forum. She's attractive, smart, and instantly there was a big natural affinity. The sort you'd plan on spending 15mins chatting to that evening, and then find you'd spent 5 or 6 hrs talking. The distances were pretty hefty, but we agreed that wasn't a problem.

But as you get to know someone away from a webforum, things change. The whole thing has given me quite a flat feeling, to phrase it one way. And nowadays I basically have little or even no enthusiasm for getting to know people I first came across via the web.

 

I noticed that most of my good friends are really extroverted. Probably because, like you said, I am very quiet and I don't usually know how to keep the ball rolling with other shy people.