hi everyone I am jayza and I just have a lot of questions I really can't ask anyone so I need some input on some stuff and look forward to having some conversations that make a little more sense.
my husband and I don't see eye to eye on bedroom stuff so it can be a little difficult. I am trying to figure out how to fix it without hurting him or making me feel crazy.
He doesn't understand my needs. I am a pleaser and a former submissive so when being a kink in a vanilla bedroom is HARD.
Marrying someone who doesn't understand your needs seems...a little reckless to say the least. Not sure why you're going to an online message board instead of a marriage counselor for help, bit welcome regardless
Well you know that thought process of if you love someone it doesn't matter who they were before as long as they are who they truly want to be? I am just venting and I have a therapist I just needed to get it off my chest.
It's funny, me and my girlfriend synergize quite well in the bedroom, but clash in just about every other important aspect of sharing a life together. It's for this reason that I'm very reluctant to marry her, despite the fact that she wants that and that we both do love each other. I guess what I'm trying to say is that... Well, it can be really really tough. I may not understand your full situation (nobody but you will, really), but I do fully understand what it's like to be in a bind or at odds within an otherwise great relationship. It sucks in indescribable ways Just the same, welcome to here! Wherever here is. I'm still trying to figure out what this board is for
Thanks. It was hard to tell we would have these issues because we waited until we got married. ( and for a kink you can imagine how hard that was) It is just difficult to be myself when it seems like he doesn't like that part of me.
