Hey friends, guess what??

Hehe, it's the thought that counts.

 

Yep, that's the Old South.

 

No

 

You hit the bullseye with that one

 

Well mama I honestly think you need to do a few things like, get an education, be self sufficient, raise a few kids and watch some others so your focus shifts, look after your health and body, do physical exercise, get involved with others in a sport or hobby...........damn, I think you already do all of this.

How about you just stay who you are?

 

Heat <3

 

Why not throw self esteem out the window (yeah, I've read some of Albert Ellis). Why base our worth on what we have, do, or know? And who's standards do we go by in deciding the right things to have, the right things to do or the right things to know?

If we didn't have self esteem at all (low or high), then why would we have any reason to take offense of anyone else's lifestyle or anyone else's opinion of our lifestyle? Our self worth would not be dependent on somehting outside of us.

I wonder how difficult it would be to zero out everyone's balance and really believe the truth that we are all worth the same. Whether you are the ruler of the world or a homeless person, a person engaged in sports and fitness or someone who stays at home and plays video games. The same with people who know a lot and continue to learn more because they feel knowledge is an important goal in life, as opposed to someone who feels that engaging the world through just living it is all of the knowledge a person needs.

I just wonder how defensive we would be if we didn't worry how we "measured up"? I know that defensiveness is almost always if not always what causes me to get irritated with someone. I usually see something in them that I wish I had in myself or sometimes see something in them that they express freely that I don't like in myself and repress. I end up feeling like I have to defend my opinions, beliefs, lifestyle...pretty much just me.

It's easy to see this happening in a forum with such a diverse group of people. Everyone has a different opinion. Everyone has a different lifestyle. It seems like a lot of the animosity here as on any forum is from constant defending.

I know this sounds like advice, but I'm just questioning. I wonder how difficult it would be to forget selfworth and just take in everything everyone else does and says and see it as something to not hold on to as gold or not to fight like it was some kind of danger to our self worth?

Maybe it is impossible.

Sorry for my second ramble of the day(I think that's only my second.).

 

I suppose some degree of social competition is inevitable in every situation, unfortunately. Online, the challenge is to write in an interesting way. If you don't measure up to people's expectations, you probably won't have a great forum experience.

Some of this defensiveness is instilled during our school years, and not without good reason. If we grow up feeling no pressure to do anything well, we might end up unable to work and support ourselves.

The challenge for adults is to not let this mindset overwhelm us and permeate everything we do to an unhealthy degree.

 

One of my friends just posted this on fb and I thought of this thread.

 

I love that. This is one of my favorite quotes from the fabulous Dita.

 

I also like to keep it simple with...

 

But then all you have to say is...

 

Is there a way I can buy more reps to give out?

 

:2thumbsup:

 

Hahaha! I love the haters pics.

 

:2thumbsup:

 

I've been on my phone to much today and now all I can do is reply with emoticons. I have "android thumb"! I think rest is the only cure.

 

congrats on the test, you still dont scare me though... derby warrior that you are

 

hahah now this kid is one ugly mother fucker.