Here is my confession, what is yours?

I love a dark haired woman

 

I would not worry about it, or feel guilty, or ashamed, or anything like that---if that is what you mean by not sure how you feel about it. A lot of people have fantasies of things they would never act out in real life. Some things they may actually feel an aversion to even attempt to act out. But a fantasy is a private 'what if' scenario---and it allows one to explore things that they wouldn't really do.

So----explore-----if it is a fantasy enjoy it and realize that it is just that, nothing more. And if it is something you really wouldn't want to do, then you never have to do it beyond a fantasy.

 

I was with a black man for a whole 4 years before I explored other races. It's so funny because people never think of black peoe being that way. I wasn't married but we had a child and i just couldn't do it. I couldn't be what my mother wanted me to be just so there wasn't anyone uncomfortable during functions. She got used to it ofcourse. She is still not satisfied she always makes little comments like ihow it a phase but I know it's not. I'm happy and I will never go back. It's like being gay in a way I guess. But now I'm free to be who I am because I have my heart what it wanted and if he just happened to be something other than black.

 

i have a crush on topanga from boy meets world- ans shes a hippie!

 

haha..i think we all did...she was sooo sexy...and curvy

 

she still hot as fuck now google image here

 

It hurts when a man says he never wants to chose between you or his family (his parents). Because eventually he has to choose and if his parents have an issue with you, then there will always be that underlying issue if he does choose me.
So I'm preparing to lose and my heart hurts already.
I don't want to go to work because I have all this stuff on my mind and my heart is heavy and I have to go and have a fake smile on all day in front of my snake coworkers.

 

There there...

 

Here if you need any help Quiet...take things one day at a time. You never know...things may still work?

 

I'm 27 and my boyfriend is 55. I call him Daddy, and when we fuck he holds me down, covers my mouth and growls in my ear that only a Daddy could love a little dirty whore like me... It makes me SO hot!

 

So I've been thinking for quite sometime, how I personally would probably treat a LOT of men differently if I knew what they were packing (penis size) and if they were good in bed or not....meaning, if there were some tell-tale sign by looking at a man.

None of that stuff is true, the size of their hands or their feet...the size, height or any of that, there is just no way to know, which is totally not fair to us women, because you can pretty much tell what we look like without our clothes by how they fit us...or even our breast size...but with men, we never know what we're going to get.

Anyhow...I thought about this and included most women in this thought, that we would treat men differently if we 'knew'.
....then I thought of a few coworkers that just disgust me and that whole daydream went down the toilet!!! (if they were good in bed and had a nice dick, I'd still be disgusted by them and ...just ew.)

....barf.

 

We as guys don't know any more about you ladies than you do about us in that respect. I mean, what the hell, do you have a big clit? What do your inner lips look like? Are your outer lips really fleshy, or kind of skinny-looking? Well no, don't answer those questions, I'm just giving you some examples, lol. The point is, we DO NOT know what we're going to get any more than you do.

So the moral of the story is, what difference does it make? At the end of the day, we don't date dicks or pussies. We date people. You said it yourself that you were disgusted by the thought of your co-workers. I'd be disgusted by the thought of getting involved with some women even if they had the most beautiful pussies and were amazing in bed, too. So, it's really pointless to judge someone based on what their genitals are like, or how good they are in bed.

I mean, I'm a virgin so I'm probably going to suck in bed at least for a little while. My penis is five inches erect which, by most people's "standards", is small. You could have the most gorgeous pussy and are dynamite in bed, but if you simply judged me, not even as a potential lover but as a person, based on my dick size and my ability(or the lack thereof) in bed, and treated me differently(in other words, worse, perhaps?) compared to you'd do more endowed men who are more skilled in bed, then that would automatically make me lose some of the respect I previously might have had for you, and thus would make ME treat YOU differently in turn. Think of it in reverse situation for a second. Surely you wouldn't want to be associated with someone judging your very existence based solely on what your pussy is like(visually, or whatever) and how talented you are sexually.

Reality is that a lot of women, or at least the women around me, DON'T think the way you do when it comes to this matter. There are girls who would say their boyfriends' five-inchers are "perfect" for the reason that they are attached to the men they love and care about. Plus, lovemaking techniques can be learned. Similarly, most guys, or at least the guys around me and including myself, DON'T care about the size of which part of the girls' genitals, or this and that. We only want to associate with, and be attracted to, people based on something meaningful, like how they carry themselves from a spiritual and/or philosophical standpoint, how they treat others, how they approach life, rather than something totally superficial. This is especially so when there's no romantic feelings involved, because in that case the sexual aspect becomes pretty much irrelevant.

Just my opinion.

 

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A very valid and well put opinion and when I'm not hormonal and super horny, I share the similar views. Even though I'm a very sexual person, I prefer and practice being in love with someone to be sexually intimate with them.

-- but I do admit to loving to admire the male body! A LOT.

Now speaking in terms of size, sexually 5 inches is plenty for me as long as you can use it right. I don't prefer a monster size dick! (proof is in my previous posts)
And nothing wrong with being a virgin, you can and will learn about how to be a lover. (I wasn't trying to be insulting or sound shallow)

Hmm. I think it I was speaking in more terms of fantasy than being physically judgmental of someone, but in some aspects it is true -- it is very important to be sexually compatible with someone -- it has to be a package deal.
Sex is important to me. It's an important part of a relationship. Very important...to me. It's who I am, what i have desire for.

I haven't had sex in around 2 years now....(I'm saving myself) --- so I speak out of raging hormones at times, forgive me.
I enjoyed your post though!!

OH, I disagreed with men really caring about what my clit size may be, most men, 99.9999% of all I've ever known, unless they were gay, just cared about our butts or breasts or what they prefer...but come on...clit size???
I don't think that can compare to my statement.
Like guys are sitting around going "oh check that one out, wonder what her clit size is.." psssh.

 

My first toy was 5" and at the time I thought it was plenty big enough for me too. The guys I'd been sleeping with at the time weren't much bigger but my partner now is 7" and I love struggling with it.

 

You are so right! There's really no idea what a woman looks like unclothed. Sadly ever time I watch late night tv, there's a new misleading product for woman to wear. Last nite I saw one for saggy arms...lmao

I've never wondered how big a woman's clit was, that's odd. My thoughts are usually focused on physically shown attributes such as lips and ass. What those lips look like wrapped around my dick and how nice her ass will look boucning on it.

A man could take home a woman from the club, get her unclothed and find out shes nothin he envisioned, but hey, shit happens in life and gotta roll with the punches.

 

Yeah, well. Imagine us women taking a man home, we start to make out...he sucks in bed and HE'S nothing like we envisioned!!!


Maybe it's cause I'm a woman that I can tell what another looks like naked by seeing them dressed....ha.

...sup Homie

 

Understood. Maybe I may have come across a bit harsher than called for. No need to apologize, really. I'm a lot more naive than practically everyone else my age is. Hell, my last net-ex who was 13 years younger than me even pointed that out about me, go figure. xD

I agree though, that you'd need to be sexually compatible with your partner, if you wanted to include sex as an integral aspect of that relationship. And in most cases, we want it to be something that completes romantic relationships. After all, it is one way of expressing love, affection, and appreciation toward someone you love and care about. It is what creates new life. I believe that, when two people are truly compatible, there's something magical about what goes on between them. The emotional bond becomes so strong that something akin to a psychic connection may be established between them. Sex becomes more than sex, but rather a spiritual experience that further takes the couple to a higher place in the realm of love.

I have my own personal preferences when it comes to the kind of girls I prefer physically speaking. My current SO fulfills some of those things, but not all...and, it's perfectly alright. In any case, I think she's got the main areas covered where the physical side of things go: such as the overall physique, the boob size aspect, the way she responds physically to erotic stimuli(for instance, clit erection hardness aspect just 'cause I have a thing for clits as some of you old-timer HF users might recall, lol), things like that. In fact, I feel like I'm very lucky to have met someone who is so close to being my ideal partner, even though she essentially looks nothing like the girl I'd initially envisioned as the "dream girl". But hey, such is life and it's wonderful.

I'm glad you still enjoyed my post. Hope you didn't find it too aggressive.

Oh, I just meant the clitoris was a covered area in most situations, thus we wouldn't have any way of knowing what each girl's clit, or the inner lips, outer lips, so on so forth, would look like. I don't really care about the size thing as long as she's the type to enjoy having her clit stimulated(some girls don't like it, I guess for various reasons like hypersensitivity, this and that). It's just like you ladies can't tell if a guy is circumcised or not just by looking at his denim-clad crotch type thing. I was simply bringing up the uncertainty aspect.

However, and to reply to Homie B as well while I'm at it(haha), I just may be of a minority that tend to think about many things clit-related. In my case, I think about the hardness aspect a lot. I find it a huge turn-on when a girl experiences a clitoral erection where she would describe it with terms that are along the line of "very hard". I'm also ridiculously turned on by the sight of an erect clit "moving" as she flexes her PC muscles. Yeah, now you know one of my fetishes is, LOL. xD

As for boobs and butts, my personal preferences are that she be relatively small-ish(or I guess just not overly big) where breast size is concerned, and with a...well, just a nice, soft yet firm ass, this isn't the area where I get to be overly original, lol. I'm not anal about those aspects, though. I've found that, quite often, what makes a person that much more attractive is their imperfections.

In any case, I personally have never been disappointed with my partners physical attributes, at least from the cosmetic standpoint.....imperfections and all.

 

In my late teens I would have three-somes. I miss them terribly...

My DH has no idea... and I don't know how to bring it up.

 

Well I agree with pretty much everything you said.

Compatibility amongst two people is core component in a relationship. I remember in the movie Friends with Benefits when Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis (she makes me tingly on the inside) first had sex. Their communication was beyond on point and thats how it should be. Sure wish I had something like that...*sighs* Another part of the communication is the other person has to be willing to accept what's being told. I was once getting head from an ex, told her what i wanted her to do, she got mad and asked if I wanted to suck my own dick or do i want her to do it. My only option was to shut up.

I'm pretty sure your not the only person who thinks of clits in the manor that you do. I think a little differently on it. It's pretty how big could I make her clit from sucking on it. God I love sucking on them ( jus had to calm myself down for a moment).