Help with sexless marriage

why do people that question or complain about a situation insist that someone else who IS NOT complaining about the same or any other situation go see a counselor?

Counselors help you fix a problem (so to speak) would seem like if a person ain't questioning or complaining then maybe they don't think they have a problem. The person (any person...not just people on this thread) who complains must have the problems so they should be the ones who seek help.
Besides, some people have a problem with spouses, kids, bosses, neighbors, in-laws,...they don't have a problem or live with a counselor. So a counselor can't really fix a problem u are having with other people. You have to learn to talk to the people or person u are having the problems with.

 

anti-depressants can really affect your sex life. i would highly suggest seeing a marriage counselor about this and talking with them about your wife's depression and need to be on anit-depressants. it sounds like it is a psychological problem. good luck and keep searching for the truth. if you love one another you can overcome this problem.
angel hippiewise

 

Yes, the actions of all antidepressants will change over the course of time. They all affect the settings on the brain chemicals after a period of use the brain becomes adjusted to the new settings and the problem that caused the depression in the first place kicks in again. The docs call it burn through. Just giving someone medication without other forms of treatment is very common but it is not the right thing to do. The idea of meds is to produce a bearable state while the person is working on their problem. However, most docs do not want to take the time to talk to any of their patients. My advice would be to find a Nurse Practitioner or Psychologist who is working with a doc. The doc can give the meds and the counselor can do the treatment. Stay away from General Practice docs if you can - they know nothing about psych. meds. They just give what the drug salespeople tell them is the flavor of the month. By all means, talk to someone yourself. Do not take any advice you get on line as being golden (including mine (grin))

 

Maybe she's feeling self-conscious i know from experience that if im on certain tablets i dont want anything.
Swap the situations around and put yourself in her place and its you who is feeling right about sex, and you have your partner buying you pretty underwear, being suggestive, talking about sex etc. You need to talk to her by the way you have put your post it seems like you talk at her. And im sorry to say this but if you really loved her and understood her maybe you could have a sexless marriage - whats more important being with the one you love or have 10 minutes of sex?

maybe even show her this post or see if she wants to join a website about different issues she has - its easier typing rather than talking and im sure on here for example there are alot of very clever people who give very good advise.