I'm in desperate need of advice from any parents out their who have gone through similar situations with their children. I'm 21 years old and my daughter Isabella will be two this April. She is my only child so this stage is all new to me. She has started to have the most hellish out of control tatntrums! She has always been very, independent and fiesty, and strong-willed. But this is getting rediculous. She refruses to let me lay her down and change her diaper and clothes in the morning when I go into get her. She tries to run away from me and when I do try to change her she kicks and howels and screams as if I was tourturing her. Also anytime I tell her she can't have or do something she goes crazy and I don't know what to do. About 20 times a day she tries to pull all the books off the shelf and when I gently try to move her away from them and distract her with something else to play with she goes into a frenzy. She grabs at anything and everything in sight throwing it on the ground and she kicks and screams and cries to the point she almost makes herself sick! I tried trying to calm her by holding her until the tantrum passes but this only makes her more angry. And at this point she's too upset and even though she's little, she's very strong and I can hardly hold her. She also does this to my husband she started screaming and even scrached his face when he tried to change her for me. It's also not just when she has to be changed but anytime she has to be still for a second, like when we try to put her in the highchair to eat I can hardly get her in it myself becease she makes herself so stiff. This has gotten progressively worse over the past few weeks and I'm really worried I'm doing something wrong. I don't believe in spanking but this has gotten where I feel like I have no control over the situatuion and I'm ready to pull my hair out!! Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated!