Hey guys So I want to ask some advice on when and if to have a talk with a girl you are dating about making it more exclusive, I know that some people dont agree with labeling things and going with the flow which we have been but it must get to a point when you realize your feelings are growing that bit stronger and you want to know if the girl you like has the same intentions or feelings right? So the situation ( will try and keep it brief), I met this girl online a few months ago, that moved to texting most days then phone calls to each other afew times a week and then the first date. We live a few hours from each other and both have had alot of work so we have only spent 3 weekends together so far but they are very intense and we get on incredibly well. I will admit its a very sexual relationship and it was from the off and I was worrying that maybe thats all she wanted but there have been dinners out and days out so must be a little more than just for sex. I hope lol. I am too scared and think maybe it is too soon to ask her what she is looking for especially as she had a relationship sometime ago and she got hurt. She has joked about tings like "So what about your other girlfriends",I think this is her suttle way in a jokey manor to find out if I am seeing other people too which I really am not and couldn't imagine doing as I am starting to only have eyes for her. I am sure she is probably talking to other girls which of course is not a problem as we are technically not exclusive but when do you take that step to ask "Where is this heading"? I am hoping to see her again shorty and maybe that could be a time to find out what she is thinking(even though the thought scares me) x
Well, there's that old joke, isn't there: Q: What does a lesbian bring with her on a second date? A: A removal van And there is more than a grain of truth in it. Being honest - 3 weekends together is still early days. ell, I mean, you can do that without even finding out if you can cope with her mood changes when she's on her period, right? BUT ... on the other hand ... you're clearly getting heavily into her, and I think that there's no harm in letting her know this provided you are confident that she's not going to run a mile with fear at the thought of commitment. There's seldom any gain in a relationship in trying to hide your true feelings. So let her know your true feelings, and see where it take you. Good luck, hun
Ha well it often is so true! Especially for me,I always fall pretty quick! I think its fairly obvious how I must feel to her,so might just wait and see if she says anything but I will hold out a little longer lol! Thanks hun x
Take that step when you want to. You want to know where it's going? Just ask her. It's never too soon to ask a simple question.
Hmm I want to but dont want to scare her off as maybe its still to soon. Tbh I feel like I am just a bit of fun for her every now and then, I guess a booty call lol! She has gotten really crap at texting lately and I know I cant judge things on that, I said I to her I feel you have lost interest she says Not all all, sorry for being distant just stressed and busy :/. We have are next date planned so will see how it goes, but I feel I am just an occasional booty call right now
Hey, thought I'd add my thoughts, when did she get out of her last relationship? Maybe she's just enjoying your company at the moment with no strings attached especially if you say she got hurt last time, maybe give it a few more dates and drop some subtle hints and see where it gets you, it's hard it you are falling for her so probably best to find out sooner rather than later.
Her last relationship ended in Summer. Also shes just cancelled are next date after a month of planning she now has to work hmmm. I always jump the gun and I am soooo tempted to send her a messageexplaning how I feel but I know its far too soon and too hasty but hmm its the sort of mood I ma in at the moment
