Help.. orgasm-less!

Discussion in 'The Orgasmic Experience' started by naughtynorris, May 23, 2007.

  1. naughtynorris

    naughtynorris Member

    No guy i've been with has been able to make me orgasm... Through foreplay - licking, fingering, rubbing or through penetration.. or even the 2 combined!

    Through masturbation i can make myself pretty quickly.. but I just can't seem to when a guy is involved!

    My current bf gets very close.. but it builds up and up til im boiling and feel like im about to burst but then it just dies... doesn't turn into anything...

  2. villafokker

    villafokker Member

    sorry, but maybe your into woman? your a les?.......
  3. SilverClover14

    SilverClover14 Senior Member

    I was about to post basically the exact same post. :p Hope you don't mind if I jump on this thread as well.

    My bf can give me bone shaking oral but right before when I'd normally come on my own, it just disappears. I know for me it's not because I'm self conscious or not "letting" myself orgasm because I really am not that self conscious of a person in bed, but I've never been able to get past the almost there part with a guy.
  4. Allonym

    Allonym cheesecake slut

    what do you do while masturbating? have you shown your partner how you masturbate? what do you think about while masturbating? have you thought about that as well while your partner goes to work on you?
  5. Mr. Berguh

    Mr. Berguh Member

    I don't know you, but your problem could be that you worry about it too much.
    The first time I had sex I was so worried I was gonna ejaculate prematurely that I didn't even come at all. Now when I concentrate, I can last a lot longer without coming when am having sex with a girl. It can work the same way for girls.

    My advice to you is this:

    *Chillax! (Relax), just go with the flow and enjoy the moment. Don't start having sex worried that you're not gonna have an orgasm.

    *Communicate. You and your partner should talk about what you like and what you don't like. Every girl/woman has that special thing that really turns her on. Am sure that when you find it, you're gonna have a lot of orgasms. Plus, for some people (like me), communication is part of the foreplay. It rly turns me on to hear the girl talk about what she likes and what she'd like me to do to her. You can also learn a lot of things about your partners this way, it's a win-win situation.

    *Try New Things. If what you're doing is not getting you to that orgasmic level, try something else. Like I said before, every person has something that rly turns them on.

    Let us know if you have any luck!!
  6. naughtynorris

    naughtynorris Member

    Thanks :) I'll let you know...

    As i say.. i get to the brink then it just goes... its annoying!!!

    I dont have sex to have an orgasm... i see sex as a commitment entirely to my bf, pleasuring him rather than out to pleasure myself... Which is his aim aswell lol (pleasing me and not himself i mean) We communicate a lot and im very comfortable with him :)

    Just keep tryin i guess :D
  7. Avocado Noni

    Avocado Noni Member

    I would buy this and then send it to him and see if his performance gets any better - - Orgasmology

    He of course has to be committed to practicing the techniques but if he's worth your time, then he will be willing to learn a few simple techniques and practice them on you :)
  8. autumn_jewels

    autumn_jewels Member

    hm i get the build up and then it just disappointingly disappears too. glad im not the only one
  9. MunaJadida

    MunaJadida Member

    That's a rude and immature response, to say the least. A lot of women have trouble orgasming. I could have written that exact post a year ago. I had slept with three men and one woman and no one had been able to make me cum except one guy after 30-40 minutes of oral sex in a VERY specific way. My current boyfriend can make me cum three or four times with sex alone, then another time or two with fingering/oral.

    A lot of it depends on the guy. With my previous partners, I was a lot more inhibited. Plus, I was having issues with pain during sex. Pain + nerves = not fun. With my BF, I'm completely uninhibited, plus he spends more time on foreplay and pays a lot of attention to what I respond to.

    My tip would be to talk to your boyfriend, let him know what you like, and don't worry so much about having an orgasm. Orgasms are not the be-all end-all of sex. Enjoy it for what it is and don't worry if it's not what you think it's supposed to be. good luck.
  10. Hyzenthlay

    Hyzenthlay Member

    You know what? I've had that happen, and what I've found with myself is interesting.

    During masturbation or oral sex, I ALWAYS go through a "build-up, build-up...DIE" phase. The plateau happens, but then the rush begins, even moreso than before, until I actually do orgasm. Sometimes, I can have three or four "false climaxes" and the following build-ups and plateaus before having that mind-shattering real orgasm. They're nothing to actual orgasms, but they did trick me when I first started masturbating into thinking that they were, so at first I was like "This is what the fuss is about? That's an orgasm?" It happens during oral sex, too; there's a "bottom out," then another buildup, until I come. A general rule is that the more "false climaxes" I have, the better the real one is, because my body's already been through the highs and lows and is now buzzing for the real one, I think. I have no idea what this phenomenon is called, and I've never heard another girl empathize, so possibly, my body is just strange....
    So, I doubt that's your problem, but I thought I'd share anyway. In my case, realizing it meant that when it happened during oral sex, I knew to just say "Press onward, good sir, the real treasure awaits!" (not the exact phrasing I used, but you get my drift...^_~).
  11. blueyedbeaut

    blueyedbeaut Member

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