Help! My wife is on a date right now

Oh, when we got married we made that committment but as we have grown older and got wiser we agreed to make this change - in fact we both find it has improved our marriage, relationship and sex-life.

Every couple has to make their own rules to suit their own needs and desires.

Simon

 

Well, I think it's a little more complicated than that lol. It's not just a question of how 'grown up' or 'possessive' a husband is, because I am still pretty possessive of my wife. Part of the excitement for me in sharing her (see how I use the word 'share', it must be 'yours' to be shared) is the twinge of (completely controlled) jealousy I get.

Perhaps as we get older this will be toned down some, but right now I still find myself stuck in that mindset. When she was on her date, it was always in the back of my mind, 'I can't believe she's . . .', 'She's doing . . . and she doesn't even need me!', 'She bought that lingerie/got her hair done/waxed her legs, but not for me', 'That's my wife out there! What is she doing right now, and how can she be doing it without me?' etc. This is the excitement for me, I guess it's different for everybody.

I do understand where dcfbama is coming from, because I have the same feelings. I just find them exciting, while he finds them upsetting. I'm not a psycologist, I don't know where this comes from in my mind, and I really don't want to. But I do believe that it's a perfectly healthy lifestyle, and we will continue in this way for the rest of our lives.

I wonder how many men that translates to? How many times will I have to help her recover from an overly vigorous date? How many times will I have to clean her wedding ring off the next day? And her anklet? Very exciting.

Hmm. I think I need a little break lol, too exciting.

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I "share" my Rose all the time....... from day one almost. Our sex afterwards is sooo amazing. Don't knock it til you try it.

 

So now my problem is: I NEED MORE!

Lol, seriously, I feel like a drug addict now. I feel like it's been months since her date, even though it's only been a few days. I wish she had a boyfriend.

 

So then, would you describe it as almost a humiliation/submissive thing for you?

I am interested in swinging and whatnot; but for me it's all about love and freedom and happiness.
I don't know if I'd be able to handle her going off with men on her own or not (though with chicks, I know I'd be cool); and although her banging another dude could possibly excite me, when she's explaining it or whatnot, and she does often dominate me, the slightest thought that she didn't need me would make me rather sad.
And I am also a little possessive =P

 

Thats one reason I wouldnt do it. How do you know the guy shes with isnt going to sweep her off her feet more than you did, so she just up and leaves one day? Anything can happen

 

You can,t keep living your life in fear and deny yourself certain pleasures of " what if" If you truly love some one set them free, if they keep coming back they are yours, if another person sweeps them off their feet, they were never really yours to begin with. This is meant for those that choose to allow extra marital sex where you both are getting something out of it. It can be physical for both, or just one having the sex and the other knowing and accepting it ( mental stimulation )

 

I dont have that kinda mental stimulation and i dont want it. But hey, like i said. If people want it like that then all the power to em.

 

If you want to share a woman's vagina with another man, you also must be willing to share a little piece of her heart. You must be confident enough in your marriage to know that even though she's giving all of herself to him when she is with him, she will always return to you.

 

yeah, I agree with that,

Simon

 

Imagine how you'll cum when you tire of pimping her to every **** and his dog and you get her latest date to snuff her!! imp:

 

Perfectly articulated, thank you sir. This is exactly how it was for us, with just the barest thread of a connection between us through text messages throughout the course of the date. And even those were a constant refrain of "Okay, okay, here's a tidbit of info, now stop texting me 'cause you're interrupting!" It was a clear message to me, 'You convinced me, over a period of years, to do this. Well, now that I'm doing it, I'm loving it. You know I will always come home after, so fuck off and let me get laid already!'
Don't get it twisted though. I do not, and will never, feel as if she doesn't need me anymore. It's just very exciting to me to know that she doesn't need me to be there to enjoy getting her brains fucked out.

GTFO :troll:

 

Can I be honest? Ur sig is just fuckin creepy in the sex forum. lmao