So I'm unsure of what I want, sometimes I find myself thinking about what it'd be like to have sex with another man, then I imagine telling my bf all about it. So do I want to cheat or have a relationship where we have sex with other people? I can't tell which one it is.. Please help. I love my bf, but also wonder what sex with others would be like? Is this wrong? I don't want to leave him, but would love to explore. He is my first and only bf we have been together for 3 years.
if you don't want to leave him then you have to tell him. he could want to explore with you. (maybe not with another guy but that's a discussion between you and him....) the only other options are forget about it and stay in your relationship. or cheat on him, which would make you a bad person since you didn't seem to mention any problems with your current relationship.
For me and my wife, then g.f. an open relationship worked. When she was 19 me 21. I took a job that required travel, and was away Mon.-Fri. we had been together for 2.5 years, lived together only a couple of months, after she had graduated h.s. We talked it over and she said she wanted to try other men also. Most of the time we meet with other couples. But she found a few friends with benefits, and I had my fun on the side also. It gave her the chance to try a few different things, she wanted to try. We never played with friends or co-workers, except one couple where things just kinda got out of hand. Looking back we stayed together, and some other couples we knew, went the cheating route, and messed around behind each others back, ended up divorced. Not saying what is best for every couple, but we liked being open and honest. Best of luck.
It is normal to want to have experiences with others! This is something you should try talking about openly with your man. He may also want to. What is not cool is going behind his back and cheating. Think about how you would feel if you found out he was doing it to you. Unless you are selfish enough not to care about his feelings and can be happy being in a relationship built on lies then I suggest you don't.
simple answer ask your bf to swing with you. most likely he wont go for it, most men have that stupid crap double standards, theyd go for it if its a woman that they see as they can potentially bang later too but rarely ok with men. but who knows... you might get lucky. i think you should explore, considering he is your first and only.... its like eating mc nuggets and saying this is good this is what a chicken nugget is... without ever trying what other nuggets or what a real 'chicken' nugget might be.. sorry i havent had coffee yet ok... and im hungry i want food
