Boyfriend I would think, loves me enough to tell me a secret only he and the handfull of men he has had sexual encounters with know about. From research, I am finding this goes on more than I would have thought. Should I be scared he will cheat? Should I feel inferior that I can't completely please him like a male member. Love him to pieces, but still trying to wrap my brain around the situation. Can't really discuss with anyone. Just need to talk.
What kind of help do you want? You actually don't want help, you want to hear what you want to hear. "he won't cheat, he loves you" and all that. He most likely prefers men. He will most likely want to be with men more and more, while he's with you. If you really want help - go find yourself a straight man. He probably has feelings for you and cares about you, but is that enough? You are convenient and socially acceptable. But his attraction towards men will not go away. If that's fine by you, being with a bi man, then carry on....feel inadequate and continue to doubt. Sounds like a really great, secure relationship. Instead of asking him for answers, you're asking us.
I have talked to him, and do. I'm just looking for someone who has dealt with this to get real life information/experience. Maybe I should have posted in a different area. Just signed up, and figuring this out. Why are YOU snooping on this forum? Hmmmm.... Curious?
If it is something that you don't want to do though, don't compromise who you are and your values to please a guy's sexual fetishes. There's nothing wrong with what he wants but if you don't want what he wants, don't pretend like you do so you don't lose him. No relationship is ever worth you losing your values.
Look deep down inside and ask yourself if this is what you want. I don't think you're comfortable with it, and you have every right not to be.
Why do people force themselves to accept sexual things in relationships that really make them uncomfortable? If you have to get others to help you relax over this, it's obviously something you're not cool with.
DON'T WORRY. HE IS STILL STRAIGHT. HE JUST LIKES BUDDIES TOO MUCH. HE WANTS TO BE YOUR SPECIAL BUDDY TOO BUT YOU ARE BEING DIFFICULT.