hello people, im 18, had sex with 11 people, to be honest had sex rather alot in the last 3 years. BUT my current girlfriend who I've been with for 6 months now, cannot make me cum. No girl has ever been able too (Oral sex/foreplay). Its not because she is bad at giving oral sex, its feel better when she does it compared to when i masterbaute. But its just that last little bit when im about to orgasm, it goes and i end up having to wank for a bit then she gives head for the last seconds, or i just cum inside her. Ive read loads and people are saying its because maybe i masterbauted alot, and maybe its the way i hold my dick, or the pressure i put! need help, if anyone has had the same problem or knows what to do, would really appreciate some advice. RR
Before anything else is said, it's MASTURBATE. Sorry to be a spelling nazi here, but this word in its correct form really does not sound like "master bought". Well then, moving on. So, you can orgasm but you just can't when a girl attempts to get you off via means other than intercourse..... Is that correct? I think it has more to do with the psychological aspect than anything else. But that's just my opinion. Masturbating a lot in itself doesn't necessarily cause the kind of problem you have, I don't think. Unless, perhaps, you are very rough when you masturbate and thus your penis may have become desensitized over the years. But it's tough to say. Do you communicate well with your partner? I think it would help to tell her exactly how you like to be touched and sucked, especially when you near the point-of-no-return in your case. Also, pay attention to the sensations you feel when you masturbate, too. Try to recognize the feeling when you orgasm, and understand what was needed to push you ever the edge. Do you also spend enough time on foreplay? Foreplay is not just about touching your partner before the actual intercourse. Foreplay is about taking that mutually experienced sexual arousal to another level. A much higher level. A reasonable amount of time should be invested into this stage of lovemaking. All the best.
Unfortunately extreme amounts of masterbation can desensitize you its most comon in wemon by using dildos and vibraters but it can happen with men to plus try not to concentrate on the orgasm it will happen just injoy the moment get lost in it there is also a problem with anxiety in men that can go as far as lost erections so if you so worry about not being able to get off by just her pleasering u u might be the one stoping it at this point go for tbree days at least with no masturbation plus it will give u a bigger load when it does happen don't think about an orgasm at all let her do her thing and injoy it let the orgasm suprise u and it will hit u harder
