So my boyfriend has a big dick. It's perfectly round (unless I'm giving a blow job..then its too big) but it's too long for some positions. We both love doggystyle and we like it hard but It hurts so much when he is so deep. It's obviously hitting my cervix and is so uncomfortable but I muscle through it. It's the hardest and deepest sex I've ever had and I'm craving it all the time but I want to enjoy it. Any tips or suggestions to eliminate the pain?
An easy way is to try a different position. The best position I can think of is Cowgirl or Reverse Cowgirl. Basically this is you on top. That way you can control how deep his appendage goes inside you and thus illuminating any pain. Some guys also like the woman taking the lead for a change and this position has that as an added bonus. With reverse cowgirl he can also give you a playful spank if your not working hard enough !
There are things you can do to be more comfortable while accepting his larger size. First of all be sure your vagina is warmed up. It takes anywhere from 10 to 40 minutes for your vagina to open up to it's full capacity for penile insertion. Your body may need more time to get ready to accept him. Be sure you are engaging in lots of foreplay before intercourse. It would also help for him to bring you to orgasm once or twice before he inserts his penis. While you are engaging with him be sure you are using lube. Not just a squirt or two but a lot of quality (not drugstore brand) lubrication. By adding lubrication to your natural secretions it will help prevent your vaginal wall from tearing because of his large size. If part of the problem is his length pushing into your cervix, which you state it is, have him wear a cock ring. They work well for that canine position you like so well. It does two things. One, it prevents real deep penetration because the ring acts as a stop. Two, a cock ring traps blood inside the member causing him to have a firmer erection and more intense orgasm. Research well to find the correct size. As suggested before engaging in a more comfortable position is an option too. Try a position where you can control the depth. It was suggested to try cowgirl or reverse cg but you can also try a spooning position. Google sex positions to find out how to engage in shallower penetrating positions. It really won't bother him if he isn't as deep in you as he can be. Most of his stimulation comes from the glans of his penis which is on the underside and within an inch or so from the tip. So if he has a 9" cock he only needs half of it inside you vagina for a great ride. I hope these suggestions help with you getting the most out of his endowment.
Thank you. I think part of the problem is we both enjoy it when he's pounding against me from behind. Hard to get that hard pounding if he can't go in all the way. I think we'll try an orgasm before sex...that might help. Thanks!
You having an orgasm helps relax the vaginal walls making full penetration easier. Also try a cock ring in order to control the depth. With it positioned around his cock to shorten the penetration depth he can still fill your vagina but not go in to far to the point of discomfort. Once you get it correct you both may enjoy the pounding into your vagina he can provide.
That is EXACTLY how I have my best orgasms. Hitting my cervix as you described above is painful at first but OMG that pain turns into such a spectacular orgasm. Consider yourself lucky.
Google and order an adult pleasure product called "the bumper". I don't represent the product or have any financial interest in it, but I have purchased and used one. It's a two-piece device made from medical-grade silicone, and he wears it. One of the pieces is the shape of a doughnut. It's specifically designed to shorten his thrusts and to limit the depth of them without changing how he or you move at all. He can push just as hard as he does now, and you will find that you have less pain in more positions. You'll also be able to more easily ride him and control the sensation for yourself. It's basically a soft cushion at the base of his penis and against his pubic pad. It doesn't change the distal end of his equipment, only the proximal end, for those who like medical terminology. Look into it. It won't change anything about how you have penetrative sex, other than his penis will be effectively shortened by up to a couple of inches. You aren't the first couple to have a problem with harmony in sexual union based on mismatched genital size or shape. The Kama Sutra deals extensively with this, and it was compiled 2,000 years ago. Your problem is much easier to deal with than the challenge of a penis that is too small for satisfaction and that never gets near the cervix and those sensitive nerve endings. You have more options, and better ones. Some guys are only an inch or two in length, and no larger around than one of your fingers. A cushion at the base of a long penis is a much more effective adjustment for your size mismatch (him too long for optimum pleasure) than an extender sleeve is on a small penis for the opposite size mismatch (a man too short to reach the right places for optimum physical pleasure). If you try the bumper, you can start by using both pieces, then only one, so he'll go a little deeper, but not as deep as he does now without it. Eventually, when you've fully adjusted to his size, you can put it away and enjoy him without it. If you can't picture it in your mind, here's what it looks like. Mine isn't black, but rather a translucent, almost clear, light-colored material.
