Help getting over girlfriends sex partners

I can't get over my girlfriend sexual past she has been with three other guys she is my first just can't get over it. What can I do to get over

 

Grow up.

I know that sounds cold but it's true. So you did not take the shiny new toy out of a factory sealed box, instead you found a hidden jem at the thrift store that was just what you always wanted. Are you really gonna let it drag your joy down that someone else got to play with it first? Is the Mona Lisa less valuable because other people got to see it before you did?

And if you are jealous of these people, do you even know them? Would you also like to be mad at her mother for hugging the girl first? or just for being the first to see her naked?

If you are that troubled, perhaps you need to dump her and find a virgin.

 

I'm using this >.>

 

Do you love her?
Does she love you?
Is the sex good?

If you answered yes .... read nox lumen's reply again.

And as far as Irminsul's reply goes ..... virginity is waaaay overrated.

 

so she learns a few moves before you got to her, be grateful

 

It's like buying a slightly used car. Just because you're not the first one to drive it doesn't mean you can't enjoy the miles you put on it. Who cares about the past? She has chosen you now. If those people mattered to her she would still be with them. Are you jealous of them? Do you feel inferior to her because of her experience? Chances are she doesn't care that you haven't been with anybody else.

 

Growup!

 

The great thing about virgins is they can't tell you how much you suck in bed.

C/S,
Rev J

 

everyone has a past, the past is the past,as long as you love each other and respect each other thats all that matters

 

Close the thread, nothing better can be added. Don't think of her as used but as experienced.

 

she'a a whore....give her to me

 

Ok, I was wrong.

 

I'm guessing that the OP is young (first partner) and the poor guy is here trying to get some sage advice to help him get his head straight. I think that's a grown-up way to handle a problem, so seriously some of the comments here are really uncalled for.

Now, to the OP:
I get it. I've been there and it sucks. Those feelings can really burn a hole in your brain, and they don't obey you when you just tell them to stop. I think the best advice here so far has been from RubySoho6 (not surprising) - your gf chooses you. Not anyone who she's been with. You. There's a reason for that. Remind yourself often.
Beyond that, the thing that helped me the most has been having a frame of reference. Once I had a "past" of my own, I could understand what it was like from my partners' perspectives. That won't help you until you have other partners, but maybe you're had a crush on someone else before? Or dated someone else? Do the feelings you had for anyone else diminish how special this girl is to you now? Of course not. It's the same for her - anything she has experienced in the past does not reduce what you mean to her.

It's tough, but things can get easier for you. Just try not to let this struggle interfere with the relationship.

 

Second that.

Just learn to deal with your insecurities, or alternatively dump her. Personally, I think it's awesome when a girl has a bit of experience and already knows what's up... they tend to be more fun in the shack than virgins.

 

Don't ever ask that question!

You might not like the answer. Don't ever answer that question. He or She might not like your answer. Just say a gentleman doesn't tell (rather your a gent or not) and stick to it.

Then post it here so we know more about you than you're better half !!

But you will have to just get over it. if you really love this person.

 

You were not her first and if you don't get over it you won't be her last! Nobody wants to be around someone who is jealous and insecure about something that has nothing to do with them. What she did before you has nothing to do with you.

 

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