Hi! So I have a girlfriend, but I really like my crush. So yesterday me and my crush were talking and it turns out that she likes me in return and I got really happy! I've had crush on her for the longest time and I was never going to say anything because I was afraid she didn't like me back. So yesterday when we were talking and admitting how we felt about one another, I realized that my feelings for may be stronger than those towards my gf. Don't get me wrong, I really like my gf too, but we never talk. She lives up north and I'm down south so it's not like we can see each other. I get out of school before her, but when she was in school, we talked everyday and just about all day, but shes out of school now and she's not allowed to have her phone when her parents are home (when they're not, she only has it for emergency purposes). I could try talking to her on tumblr, but we're never on at the same time, she rarely checks her emails, and I asked if we could skype, but she never made one. I used to think about her a lot, but now I don't as much and I really enjoy talking to my crush! And I feel bad for thinking this way, because my gf texted me happy anniversary (our one month is tomorrow, but we can't talk because she won't have her phone and I didn't know she had her phone today until she texted me). I really do like my gf, but I'm starting to think this long distance isn't going to work and I'll be better off being with my crush? I really don't know who to choose! I really don't want to hurt my gf because she's so sweet and when she has her phone she'll text me every morning and call me queen in Russian, and I'm just at a complete loss! Advice/ help?
Only for emergencies? How old are you guys? How much do you see each other? If I were in your shoes, I'd have a sit down serious conversation with your gf next time you see her. Ask her where your relationship is going since you can (I'm assuming) rarely see each other and can't even talk on the phone. No offense intended at all by me saying this and it's not directed toward your gf at all, but it sounds like a waste of time to me. If you have such strong feelings that make you happy for this crush of yours I would DEFINITELY pursue it. Though I get what you're saying too, that you don't want to hurt the one you're with. I'm the exact same way. Call it old fashioned, over-emotional, what have you. I don't care what people think about the way I am. A lot of times, I first and foremost put others' needs and feelings before my own. And I'm happy doing that. If there's something I might do that would hurt someone else, then I'm out. It's a no go. I can't stand 'knowingly' hurting someone's feelings. It's just something I refuse to do. Then again, I also know how it feels to be crushing on someone, and that is a wonderful feeling lol. Talk it out and go with your gut. That's my advice
Parents won't let her use a cell phone? I second the how old are you guys! Honestly though, it sounds like your gf isn't putting any effort into the relationship. If she won't even make a Skype account to talk to you is it really worth it? It sounds like the girl you are crushing on is making you much happier, and you actually get to talk to her. I think you should have a talk with your gf next time you get the chance and tell her that she is lovely but long distance clearly isn't working for you. I would not mention the new crush at all though.
I'm 17 and she's 16.I guess she has those type or parents in which she's always going to be there little girl. We decided on an open relationship. Not to accuse her of anything, but I honestly think she's been talking to others. She asked me, "So we can talk to other girls right?" and I just got this type of vibe that she have already been talking to someone else, who knows, but I feel better!
It sounds like your current girlfriend isn't meeting your needs. If you aren't happy, break up with her. You're young, she is young, you're both too young to be in a relationship that doesn't make you happy. Go for your crush.
One month anniversary? How did that get to exclusivity? Dude, You are in high school. It's all just relationship practice.
any update of the situation? Or is it the same like in the story? The gf does not respond and no news. Same like here in the forum? Just curious if this needs smth more or let it rest...
