Hello, I am Wolfie. I am a male, Med Ret Army, in one of the 11 different types of a Dom/sub lifestyle with my wife, i am the Dom. Blessed be
So your a dominant husband. But is your wife willing? Or are you just a control freak? It's different when a woman is the dominant one.. Welcome.
When a man is dominant, he is a control freak. When a woman is dominant, she is not a control freak. I get ya
Yes...i am an utter control freak with a one sided marriage. That is why I have another post asking for help on a decision because I am not sure how to approach the situation. Those are very biased questions and a biased statement. It is not different either way. Whether it is a Dominant or a Dominatrix does not matter. Either or can be a control freak. Gender does not have a prefix in regards and is a flippant statement. Thank you for the welcome.
A true Dominant/Dominatrix is a caring soul when it comes to his her submissive. The submissive has utter control in the end. The day I become a control freak would be a day I am no longer me. My wife would not be in this lifestyle if I was a control freak. The way our contract is...it is balanced 50/50. You too should revise your statements to more of a mass populace statement instead placing all men in the same category. That is very sexist, biased, flippant and unnecessary. Not to mention, assumingly attacking to someone you do not know at all. Do not get me wrong, I am not offended by any means. I actually find if funny that the two members that are apart of a so called community lack the intelligence and respect that they should have for others.
Arrooo. Welcome Wolfie. I've seen a lot more men using the context of sub/dom kink to cover the fact they are assheads than I have dominants in the way you describe, but I also have had a couple as friends who are exactly what you describe. I don't think anyone is lacking intelligence or respect, it's just that if people have not been exposed to a loving sub/dom couple who genuinely know it's only a game, it's not a scenario easy to imagine.
That may be...saying someone is a certain way because they are a Dominant and not a Dominatrix, based solely on personal experiences is folly at best. You are silently prejudging someone you know nothing about...again based on personal experiences. There is a difference between most Dominant (male Dom) are control freaks and male Doms are control freaks. That is intelligence based...good sir/ma'am. I tend not to prejudge people I do not know. It shows lack of intelligence and is disrespectful.
This thread seems to be crossing over into 2 different areas. When a couple have a dom/sub relationship in the bedroom, Provided that both partners are happy with the situation, I generally see it as harmless fun. However, when a guy beats his partner black and blue because he did not enjoy his dinner, it is a different matter altogether. Relationships like this can even end up with someone being murdered.
The latter you described is abusive. However, to the former you mentioned, some Dom/sub is not just a bedroom fetishes. There are several types of Dom/sub lifestyles. I.E. Conditioning, Permitive, Domestic, etc. There are around 11 different lifestyles (give or take a couple). As in such the Dom/sub "lifestyle" is just that...a lifestyle. It is not a part time fetish. It comes with an intact contract (not like the 50 shades craps...that is a joke) that details a mutualistic and balanced lifestyle that is based on Dom/sub. There are Boundaries/Guidelines (generally called rules, but my sub, also my wife, does not like the term so we call them guidelines or bounderies) that she and I both must follow. She is rewarded for doing great (i.e., Earned reprieve [ER], get out of discipline and/or punishment, etc) and disciplined or punished for breaking a boundery. If I mess up then she gains an advantage (from the rewards list). That is not the entirety of it all, but gives you a bases in our lifestyle.
I Don't Understand Why You Posted This In The "Introduce Yourself" Thread.......The Thread Is Here So New Members Can Introduce Themselves.......Not Give Us "Intimate Details" As To What Goes On Behind Their Bedroom Door...... Just Saying..... Cheers Glen.
Looks lile Looks like a type.of introduction to me. If people are suppose to introduce themselves in a specific way...then it should probably say that. I introduced information about myself. That is why it is called an introduction...so people know things about you to get you to know you better. Wow. This is by far the most ridiculous and uniformed Dom/sub related community I have joined thus far and I have joined several. So far I have been accused of being a control freak because I am a Dominate and not a Dominatrix, debated with people that do not knkw the first thing about Dom/sub and now being told that I did not introduce myself properly when there are no specifications or rules that i have violated in the introduction of myself. The other posts were all responses to others...the whole reason why I joined this community was to get opinions on a different post at which point no one has responded to at all. Instead people rather keep replying here to put in their two sense when they have no earthly idea what they are talking about or to tell me pretty much I introduced myself improperly when I violated nothing...once again...wow.
By the sounds of your replies, your wife sounds like the one that actually wears the pants in your relationship
That’s what I like about you Irm. You are a very perceptive Woman! PS Sissies. Except you and I of course!
