He or she never loved you is one divorce excuse. It may be true

When you are young, you are in love with being in love. The idea of it clouds your judgement. It's called infatuation. It feels just like love, but looks nothing like it.
Interestingly enough, we seem to not learn that fact as we get older. Second marriages are actually less successful than first marriages.

 

WOW I didn

I didn't think I'd find a spiritual based person in this forum. Actually yes I agree and so do the Gurus that I frequenty read and listen to. They actually say there is no such thing as love. The feeling we feel as the love emotion is the product or as they say the shadow of a specific thought when you see and get to know someone. Yes it is just an infatuation which can be fleeting when you see someone exiting your bedroom window when you unexpectidly come home early.

Unconditional love is universal with the inability to hate for any reason. If I saw someone exiting my bedroom window as stated above I'd smile and discuss her escapades. I'd possibly stay or leave but I would always say that that was a wonderful experience for my body.

 

I totally agree because I lived it...After 28 years she said she was done playing and left...My life is BETTER, hers has been plunging year after year.

 

you definitely raise a valid point just for fun. food for thought.

 

I like more stimulating Hip Forum Topics. I also like deep thinkers.

 

I think there are lot of true cases where both partners have an equal love for...but overall these cases are a small percentage. Perhaps most marriages are two people acting like they love each other alot more than reality. Eventually truth prevails

 

In love with the truth

The person I fell in love with exists indeed.

She didn’t create a persona for me but drew me in being just the way she was. There was no need to copy my characteristics as she had her own.

She never pretended to like my interests but learned to enjoy them with me as I did hers. She believed in me. The belief in her is as strong.

She knew I am smart and even though she doesn’t reach my level she still portrayed her true nature. It is because of this I want her more.

She is madly in love with me. Believe it, because she has made me the center of her universe and she isn’t playing. She is serious. She set no trap to catch me in. There is no need to get back the person I fell in love with. She’s still there. She cares. She has always cared.

It was never about her. It was and is about us. We do feel human and are good people to each other. We manage to do that quite often as it is natural for us to treat each other this way. No, I wasn’t her first but I expect I will be her last.

My spouse and I fall into that small percentage class.

 

Someone asked me about the specific moment I fell in love with my partner I’ve been with for 24 years. I said, “if I allow myself to fall in love we would lose what we have.”