I really appreciate everyone's advice and feedback, even yours Willy... but please try to avoid this whole Asian men have small penises thing. Its a stereotype (not true btw), and not so relevant right now. Yes I am a westerner (Mexican Mother and White Dad with Scottish roots, if you must know), and we are an odd couple. But not so rare that we are unique in my city, not by a long shot.
I was told that by an Asian friend of mine who claimed it was true. It's not like I go checking out Asian guys by any means I hope things work out for you though, whatever the outcome. Good luck!