Ive known him/been friends with hom for aound 8 months but have been dating my bf for a week We rushed into sex I believe because we've kind of subtly flirted over the months but even though we've only been together for a week (literally all day all night straight haha) I am questioning whether its what I want or not. Here's why: Maybe its just wishful thinking but I think its a possibility he might be worried that he's not good enough. I've been with a considerably more amount of men then he women, I think sometimes he even thinks I've been with dozens and dozens of guys bc of the way arrogant immature guys talk about females around here. Maybe he thinks he won't compare? (Its 100% not an issue of him thinking i have an std) He has asked me a few different times if he was the best and whatnot. Maybe he just doesn't know what to do.. I've shown him how I like to have my clit played with and how to finger my gspot. 2 out of the 3 times he asked if he could just"put his dick in". He seems adamant on making me cum with penetration sayingevery girl he's been with has orgasmed fairly quickly this way; which if your an experienced lover you know is highly unlikely they all really had an orgasm. I've told him over and over I like you fingering me before, every girl is different, this prepares me for penetration, etc. He just doesn't seem to care all that much that I get off as well as him? Like at least he gets in there and tries but if it is lasting longer than 5 minutes he starts half assing it and trying to stick it in. I am soooo incredibly turned off by this that my vagina is almost instantly dry and THE SEX IS PAINFUL. I need to be sexually pleased just as a man does, I am a sexual women. I told him him not taking more time focusing on my orgasm, I don't think we will work out. This made him angry where in which he said "I dont want to finger you for 10 minutes every time before we do it. Maybe we aren't compatible". After he claimed he was just angry but idk this was an incredibly selfish thing to say and it revolted me. 10 minutes of it doesn't even sound good. So what do you think? Is he just being arrogant, lazy, selfish, what? Or maybe he just is new at this.. I told him that I would teach him everything. If it's the former, its an absolutely legitimate reason to brrak up with someone, right? Get this pussy eaten? HAH something tells me he's not into that.
Sex = An action taken 'sometimes' on the Spur of the moment that one; or both, later regret - "If it don't fit don't use it"! ... Move on to do the things in LIFE, that both will be happy with
He does sound like he just doesn't tap into you on any level at all when you're fucking. That is a formula for bad sex. Having said that I would not want to fall into a mechanical pattern of fingering you for 10 minutes every single time we had sex. What's wrong with oral? 69 is fun for everyone. Jerk him off while he is fingering you and throw some passionate kissing in there, if that isn't good enough for him then he is an immature lover. Give and take or gtfo.
Of course I've asked him to eat me out a couple of times but he sort of danced around the question one time mumbling something about doing it "one day" hahah. Idk I would never want someone who didn't enjoy doing it to do it anyways
Oh yes, throw that one back then. It almost sounds like you are describing a guy whose virginity you've just taken. Seriously, nobody's that bad or selfish. Something isn't right there.
Yeah he sounds like a virgin who won't admit and he thinks it's supposed to be a certain way 'cause he watched some porn. Either that or he's a dick and doesn't give a fuck...he needs to be honest and then humble and learn something or you know...what everyone else said.
Even if he's a new player he's got to be prepared to learn and in this case he's not. Move on now before it drags on and gets even more painful.
