What is your definition of the term "Having Sex"? I define the term as doing anything sexual with my genitals be it receiving a hand job from another to full blown sexual intercourse with bare cock in bare pussy. Even solo sex as I masturbate is "having sex" with myself. How about you? How far do you have to go for it to be considered "having sex"?
I considered "having sex" to be defined as sexual intercourse when my wife and I were dating. If I included hand jobs, then we started having sex in high school, and she had sex with several more guys in college than she currently counts. Her first intercourse partner tried to convince her that it wasn't really having sex if he used a condom and his skin didn't touch hers.
This might be somewhat off the subject. IMO when we categorize anything in life we are placing limitations on it. For me I like to live an undefined limitless flowing life. Even timeless which I have been doing since I was a kid but didn't even know it. It seems most people know how long something lasted and when it started and finished. For me everything is just an experience. Thinking back I remember a wonderful relationship I had with several people. For the life of me I don't remember if we were together for 6 months or 3 years. This might sound strange but for me its a blessing. The same goes for sexual categories. We are all humans. Sometimes I like to have a dick in my mouth and sometimes I like a woman to press her pussy on my mouth. Why is categorization so important in life?
Anything two people do together with the intension of generating an orgasm for the other is sex IMO. Either with your hands, a vibrator, your mouth, your vagina, or even your ass.
Sex is physical yes, but much of it is in the mind triggering the end result. People who masturbate themselves use visualization to start with. The physical part is a means to an end as others have said. To me, it’s all sex and all good in whatever form you choose. Don’t classify it, just live your sexual life to the fullest.
So you could have a penis deep in you yet not consider it having sex because you don't want to admit to it? I'm pretty sure whether you admit it or not, you are having sex.
It is all sexual, from talking online and jacking off to bending her (or him) over and ramming it. But to put a fine point on it, having sex means vaginal or anal penetration to me. Oral or Hand jobs are just sexual in nature and not having sex. That is the way I see it.
My take on that is its a game of cat and mouse . Its then upto the participants on were they want to take it . It could lead to sex eventually .
It was all done online but you always get accused of siding with one of the partners. I have been threatened lol You need to be very thick skinned . I have been chatted up as well
