Have Your Needs Changed?

I have been asked this before, but what does it mean?

 

when one requires a level of intimacy beyond/different what is on the table now......obviously context is key

your mom and your girlfriend would mean different ''needs''

 

based on your past posts and the fact that this is in the love and sex forum, i assume it meant "are you ready to have sex yet?"

 

When I read this question, I think of the following questions.
- What I want in a boyfriend?
- Do I want a boyfriend?
- What do I want sexually?
- What do I want romantically?
- Do I want anything?

So, basically what it means is just a lot more questions to reach some self-actualization.

Are you asking us to answer these questions?

 

Oh now I understand what you mean.

What I want in a Boyfriend, is for him to love me, care for me, support me, respect me, share similar interests, be there for me, show appreciation

Yes I want a Boyfriend and I have a Boyfriend currently.

Sexually I want to wait until marriage to have sexual intercourse

I would love it if my Boyfriend was more romantic, sending me flowers or candy every so often or once in a while etc.

I want my Boyfriend and I to get engaged and then married and for us to get our own place.

But lately all him and I do is fight.

 

I don't think either of your needs have changed then.

They rarely do, mine have been the same for like 20 years, I think.

In case anyone wants to know what they are, that is that I want my partner to be supportive of what I do, and of the person I am. That's it really. The rest is all about compatibility in my opinion, and fortunately I have a girlfriend who fits the important part. She and I will definitely have sex before we get married, but the most important thing is it'll be our choice and we'll be down with it.

 

Well thats nice to hear.

 

Hopefully things for me get better. I just feel so depressed and sad lately. I want to be happy again.

 

Needs often change over time with age, and circumstances, etc. The key to continuing to have your needs met, and to continue meeting the needs of your partner is the art of compromise.

Frozen, if all you and your current boyfriend do lately is fight, chances are either your or his needs are not being met.

 

Yeah him and I are trying to figure things out but it is tough.

 

My needs? Well, let's see...

• air,
• water,
• food,
• shelter,
• a PC with the entire collection of "Fallout" video games on it,

Nope. They're pretty much the same.

(Before you say, "What about sex?", sex is number one on my "want" list. I could live without it, but I'd be miserable.)