i love my fiance more then life. and ive gone thru hell and back to finally find him after 30 something years. learning he was bi didnt bother me and him sleeping with other men but i wasnt living with him yet we were dating long distance he eat out a woman one night he was drunk so was she to. he is what they call a bottom which is fine here is what i want to know when he has had sex with a guy he seems to ignore me for awhile sexually or when im the one doing him he loves being touched and stuff but sometimes it seems he wants that more.i luv him and dont want to lose him and i just want to make him happy he talks about how it was with a guy and i try to listen and its like damn i wish hed do that to me sometimes. i would some thoughts from anyone
@Ang3lyz I don’t tend to choose to give a positive or negative spin as habit, however, after reading, you’re a story I lean on the negative side, sorry about that. I don’t think things will improve, I don’t like saying that to you, but that’s the only thing that is realistic and honest as an answer. Communication will only go so far, but if there is something that is deep in his heart and soul, it is there to stay, even if he wanted to change.
Ang is thirty something and I suspect BF is too. After thirty years we are pretty much who we are. Our likes and dislikes are set. That includes sexual orientation. BF has a passive personality and would rather be subordinate instead of dominate. That lends to him wanting to bottom for men. He has to come out of that persona somewhat in order to have sex with a woman. Since his passive personality is so prevalent it is easier for him to enjoy sex with men more than with women. It will be hard for him to mentally do to Ang what he has done to him. This is all based on personality and has nothing to do with anything Ang does or does not do. It will take a lot of discussion and adjustment on his part in order for him to do to Ang what she would like. Even so he may never be able to fully pull it off. It just may not be in him.
I would suggest he does his bi play with you involved? I dont know if you are into being with another man, but this can strengthen your bond, sharing an activity together? You might not like seeing him in the submissive role,but if you share the experience with him, look into his eyes, hold his hand, encourage him verbally, it will definitely strengthen his bond to you?
Here's a though. BI is a label. I give myself BJ's on a very regular basis. Sometimes my GF's brother gives me head, while she watches, and that's ok. If it feels good... Do it. Don't judge. If I want some satisfaction from someone I always go home to my woman. It's that simple. If she wants some satisfaction.. She calls me... Wherever I'm at. BI is a weird label.
My wife would never bring in another guy, i would enjoy it, no kissing on my part but i would love to suck a cock, never done it yet, but a fantasy
