i think actual intimacy is scary for her because she's more afraid of her flaws than a relationship. and if she gets intimate, she'll have to share, she'll have to give a shit about someone else's feelings, though i don't know if she has the skills yet to do so.
TreeHugger, I'm so sorry about this thread..It was suppose to be about your perfect guy. Sorry for starting all this off topic shit.
I don't care if my threads go off topic. Piaf like you I get bored with guys rather easy. For me I know it's because I fear commitment...so I don't allow myself to get too emotionally involved. In fact, when I do like someone and actually want to give it a try... I have to fight my fight or flight response.
Bingo! Just like I wont date a girl that cheats on her bf with me and then leaves him to try to be with me. Do I look stupid? I know it's a ticking time bomb waiting for my turn. And you found the perfect man years ago when he pushed you in the mud. Just took him a while to get perfected.
Psssh. You must enjoy pain in your ass, because you sure do bitch when he's gone. Edit: And he's closer to perfection than you'll find in Ga.
Put your money where your mouth is. Bet you couldn't go a month without talking to him. Edit: Money is figurative in this instance.... we can bet anything you'd like.
You owe me fifty bucks anyway. You just lost the bet twice within the first five minutes. It was so hard for you to do it that you didn't even realize you were losing while you were losing.
I see that as a barrier... and most probably a failure on my side... I mean, it will most likely end with my failure.
and yet another is knowing when that personal space has become a massive wall that needs to be taken down.
That's true. But both feed off each other. My experience is that the more people prod me, the more walls I put up. The less they prod, the more I share. Sharing cannot be forced upon people.