My boyfriend is currently in the police academy and he should be graduating soon & I was hoping to get advice from anyone who has had experience being in a relationship with a cop. I know it's going to be stressful for him at times so advice on how I can help him through it would help.
i say leave him now he has to be a power hungry jerk just like all of them or maybe marry first then leave and take half his shit plus half his future pension
I don't distrust the law. I like the law. =] Good for you girl, I have no real advice but I hope it all works out. I can only think of like, they see some awful stuff and it may effect him in a way, like domestic disputes can end up nasty, he may see some folks mangled in a car wreck etc. pretty much like a war vet has to go through when they come back to the real world, you know how stuff effects them? So I could only think of patience, be patient with him, he'll have good days and bad days and probably really can't tell you much about what he sees, he probably wouldn't want to tell you.. Ya know? =]
i assume lots of people have dated police officers. i know a lot of officers are married, and i have to assume that they dated first.
When I first moved here, there was one.... detective right next door....but thank god he moved to Georgia with his family, and the vet bought his house...and I love them..... This detective police was a real asshole....You could hear him over here screaming at his wife alot......and once Champy ran down to their house and he was outside......and I was waddling very slowly after Champy to recover him, as I had a messed up foot at the time..He started screaming at me........and almost brought me to tears. I was in so much pain as it was.....I hated him after that, and was so happy when he moved far away...... Came to find out after he left , and i had my dinner party here with other neighbrs and neighborhood people that no one liked him.
I think there are good cops and bad cops...just like any other job. But I don't buy this bullshit about how their jobs are sooo stressful and we should consider them to be different than us. So they might come into a little danger....I come into life-threatening danger every single fucking day and I don't have a gun or baton to arbitrarily beat the danger down or kill it. It's always there. And every single thing I do is for the betterment of my community...unlike those cops who have a habit of over-reacting to nothing. So no...I don't feel like they need any special treatment. Either you can do what you're being paid to do or you need to find a different job. Those guys get paid plenty of money and have awesome benefits. Taking you problems home so your family has to rationalize your bullshit just makes you more of a prick.
Yeah, you said it well.This one was a prick....the prickiest one ever..... i know good ones, too.....just like everything....good and bad in everything....
I might have been sarcastic had it not been a police detective and said something to give it back to him, but I knew I better just keep my mouth shut at the time.,...so instead of letting myself just be angry at the moment, like I would any person who was not law enforcement, I kept it in so hence making me want to cry, I think. I would have said to another regular person..." Can't you see I am trying here with a bad foot, asshole. Do you want my blood, too?"...maybe without the asshole word....
I don't mean to go off on a rant but I'm obviously not a big fan of authority and not someone who just bows down to their "service". They get paid for that shit just like i do. They can work anywhere they want and I can promise you that you will notice us not working a lot faster than you will notice them not working most of the time....which is funny because I would hardly consider what those guy do to be actual work.
Every cop I know has cheated on their spouses. Since my wife worked at a police station, I know many (not all do, but the ones I actually know all did). Sorry. Hopefully yours will be above the others..
There is a misconception that the divorce rate is higher with cops, but if you really do some research you'll find that to be a myth. I've never dated one so I personally can't say but consider this, you'll be with someone who every day when he goes off to work stands a better chance of not coming home or getting injured than the average guy as every day they put their lives in risk. At the core you know what kind of guy he is and why he is aspiring to be a police officer, so take a good look at that and factor that into things as well.
The only person I've ever known in real life who went on to become a cop (so, obviously knew him before he was a LEO) was this guy who I went to high school with who was a huge jerk...a bully... picked on people weaker than him and punched me and another girl, a friend of mine, in the middle of a class... anyways he was some drunk, redneck piece of shit that I really wouldn't have felt bad if he was run over by a truck. Wasn't surprised when I heard he became a cop...and I heard he hasn't changed, heard he's a bully of a cop as well. Anyways, I also know there are good and bad cops and not all cops are jerks or bullies or on power trips. And I actually have respect(!!) for the cop who deal with solving homicides and rape cases and stuff. (Detectives)... But yea have run into bad cops before. Really bad ones. SO ANYWAYS... to answer the OP's question. I have never dated a cop, nor would I ever date a cop. That's just me. I'm sure there are plenty of perfectly nice cops that aren't crooked and fine to be in a relationship with. But I really don't have any advice...
