Even though i am 18 yrs old i suppose i am a bit inexperienced when it comes to the cock. well.. a lot. the other night when i was with my bf was the first time i actually faced it and even though i have been reading my ass off on what to do, i just dont think it worked. i want to give him a handjob before i go further cuz i want to start out slow and work my way up to oral etc when i am ready, but when i had my hand there he just seemed too dry, it felt like it would hurt to be rubbing it when it was that dry but he didnt say anything and i have been told it doesnt hurt. and i know u will say to use lube and i am planning on trying that but will just lotion burn or irritate it since i cant get ahold of any real lube.. any opinions there ? and just for my knowledge.. can there be a successful handjob on a dry peepee? it just felt like it would be uncomfortable to me but what would i know.. any tips? it just didnt seem like it felt good to him so i kept stopping. urgh.
Place your vagina over the top of the cock and lube it up that way. When it seems to be well lubed then you can proceed with your handy hand work. Hope this helps!
i actually thought about doing that since there was already dry humping going on but i had my panties on and he obviously had nothing and i was still worried that the precum could mix with my juices even from my panties and somehow impregnate me... is that even possible or am i just a worry butt even though i know i worry too much.. i just dont want to get pregnant and i am not on birth control and i refuse to go on b/c of sideeffects.. so isnt that lube idea kinda risky? if not i have no problem with it.
You said that you can't get a hold of any real lube... why not? All you do is go to the grocery and pick some up, it's very easy to find. Sometimes when I'm not really in the mood to do anything but he obviously is, I bring out the KY silk and give him the handjob of a lifetime! It's really pretty fun. Another thing is, you have to be confident in what you are doing, or else if you keep stopping, he's going to be able to tell that you're freaking out which just isn't ever sexy. I hope this has helped a little bit, but I'd say the best bet is to go get some KY! Good luck!
GET BIRTH CONTROL!!!! The side affects of not using anything is much worse than any side affect that little patch could have( STD'S or even worse KIDS) and keep in mind that you really do have a lot of options reguarding what type of BC you use.
Honestly I don't like handjobs cause it's really nothin new. Blowjobs are much better! But if you're not ready for that and don't have lube just spit on it.
yea spit is sexier. going to get the lube is a inconvience plus it shows that your open minded and want to make him happy
i would suggest using a pretty soft grip, most my first handjobs from women felt like my dick was going to get ripped off. when you start out, maybe try and rub the glans with your fingetips. when you are stroking avoid doing up-motions against the grain of the head cause this can cause soreness the next day. i figure if you are going to give someone a handjob, u may as well give a blowjob.
Ask him what he likes! "Is this painful?" "Is it good"? "Do you like me to move faster, or slower?" "Should I make a firmer grip?" Talk about it!
all guys like it different. some guys like slow and gentle handjobs, while others like it hard and fast. either before you give him a handjob, ask him what he likes, or while you're giving him the handjob, ask him 'does it feel good?' 'what do you want?' etc. oh yeh and i also agree with the use of spit on the guy's dick, he shouldn't seem too dry then. then try and go for it! as for the dry humping and pregnancy scare... u aint gonna get pregnant if you have your panties still on, but still, if things get carried away, it's always good to have extra protection. iv been on the pill for over a year, and it's been great for me, iv experienced no side effects. of course, for you, it could be different, but you'll never know unless you try. of course, the pill does not protect from STI's, so you should either sit down with ur bf and talk about your sexual history (make sure you're both totally clean), or if you're still unsure, get yourself some condoms ready for if you take that step too far.
Use your spit it work and no matter what its going to feel good anyway. just play around with his dick
