guys, tell me the reality please

There is something inherently sexy about youth. I see young girls with acne, tall and stoop-shouldered, skinny, a little fat, whatever, and I can read insecurity in their faces. I know what they think their peers think of them and they are probably correct; their peers may indeed think they look less than beautiful. But the peers are kids too, and what the hell do they know?

Older people see something entirely different. When parents say their kids are beautiful and that any boy/girl would be lucky to have them, they are not just saying that because they love their kid. They actually see that youth and, while they may not want to go through it all over again, they do harbor a sense of longing and wishing when they see it. "If only I could go back knowing what I know now . . ." Those parents want to convey to their kids what they see; they want the kid to see themselves through the adults eyes so they won't walk stoop-shouldered but will put their chests out, shoulders back and be proud. They won't worry about acne but will let beauty show through. There may be some fat, but it's snappy, firm fat.

I think youth is hot just because of the tight, resilient skin that snaps back, the sparkle in the eye that can go away after a life of getting kicked in the teeth and trying to live up to the expectations of peers who don't know any better.

And I'm 53 honey. So I bet I'd consider you, Rosehippy, so fucking hot you wouldn't believe it. You should see yourself through my eyes. I'd love to be 30 something again and all over you. If you want to be wanted in that way, then find an older guy. He may even help you find a young stud when you want one.

But to answer your question, yeah, your young stud may be thinking about a young chickie. So what? He's gonna be thinking about other chicks no matter what. It's hardwired. If I was fucking an 18 year old hottie and another one walked by, I'd be thinking about fucking her too. Or, if I was fucking an 18 year old hottie and you walked by, a thirty year old hottie, I'd be thinking about fucking you too. It's the way it is.

Enjoy what you have while you have it.

 

Im still reading all the comments...This is better than seeing my therapist. You guys are really helping. Awesome to have people care and reply..Thanks Roamy, glad to hear your thoughts. And yes vanilla...i'll take your advice...

 

Thankyou so much, wonderful insight. You have helped me immensely. Under the fear and shallow stupidity of my own actions and beliefs I've got to say I agree with you wholeheartedly! Thanks again, you guys are very helpful.

 

Thanks crayola. I'm trying very hard to create new mental pathways to free myself from the hideous self doubt. I really appreciate your advice. Very valuable.

 

You can't worry about stuff like that. If he really loves you, he'll stay with you. Not just for your looks but because of who you are as a person. Everyone's looks fade over time, and if you're only in your thirties I'm sure you still look amazing. My advice would be to just continue focusing on improving your self esteem and your relationship.

 

Love is love and has nothing to do with physical attraction (very little anyway). If he wants someone else because they 'look better,' then he would be falling out of love with you. If he his falling out of love with you, it doesn't matter what you look like.

 

Rose you know what i find funny is I dont think there is a man on earth who if the situation was reversed would be asking this question.
Society is such a bitch even today in 2012. If a bloke like me 40, overweight and balding, not to mention not the best to look at had a 20 year bombshell on my arm no-one would bat an eyelid.

You have your man, enjoy him dont worry about next year or the next ten years, enjoy today non of us know what tomorrow is going to hold but I can tell you this I am sure he will love you as much then as he does now and if not I am sure someone else will..

 

Fixed.

 

Hey Rose I think you saw my thread so you have a bit of background on me. Knowing what you do, I can say without regret that the idea of being with an older, more confident and life-experienced woman brings me a sense of comfort. Given that you're into fitness, I've no doubt you're the kinda woman that a lot of guys fantasize about when they're left to their own thoughts.

You mentioned about experimenting in your post to me. If you're currently experimenting, there may be a natural and understandable degree of insecurity, but keeping it honest and respecting boundaries is really the best you can do.

To be honest, there doesn't seem a lot of reason to be doubting yourself or worrying about it. If you're really concerned, you should talk to your partner and he should be understanding. If you're still worried, you'll need to look internally at why. If he's giving you reason, try to be logical and fair about it. If he's not, you may need to accept that erroneous and irrational thoughts are getting the best of you - try to understand why.

Hope this helps and like I said, I really don't think there's justification for you to be worried.

 

IF I CAN HELP . I AM 22 SHE IS 30 . we are married . we had an agreement . i can have sex but no kissing nothing emotion only doggystyle and always condoms . most of time when i am able to find one she is just a college girl and end fucking one time . ONLY ONE TIME NO TWICE . this is the agreement i respect it totally . i LOVE HER VERY MUCH . but i am 22 young very sexually active . she like it . she knows i love her . i have many times show her how much i love her . so she trust me. and i always KEEP MY WORD . i would be very stupid destroying my paradise .

 

My lady is getting hotter with age and find myself more attracted to her

 

Thanks everyone

 

13 years younger and ur in ur 30s? So he's in his early to mid 20s? Save ur time u won't keep him have ur fun then move on

 

IActually I'm 43. Couldn't face the notion or announce it. For my sake and the sake of anonymity. Now I don't care to scream it from the roof. It's all superficial crap at the end of the day, and if he leaves he leaves. Im not holding my breath or getting too involved. Im keeping finances separate and focusing on spiritual things. Real things, not wrinkles and boob jobs.

 

"Age ain't nothin but a number" is a saying that comes to mind (in replying to this question.) I have a crush on circa 1990's Judi Dench. Her birth year is 1934 which would have made her around 60 during those years. Age to me isn't as important as natural attraction when it comes to older women lol.

 

Although I'm getting older- lol, (50's) I'm still fascinated by the various sex postions that others get to enjoy that I & my wife can't for different reasons. Some of us loose the ability to have sex in what are considered normal ones. But if you find better positions either thru experimenting or are both comfortable with, you can still enjoy the moment when you have an orgasm regardless of age / fitness.

 

I'd still do things with Hellen Mirren that are illegal in 13 states including Puerto Rico.

Stay Brown,
Rev J

 

Girl let me tell you something, now I'm 28 and my wife is 25. My wife works with a lady who is 41, and I told my wife that I would drink her bath water! This lady doesn't work out at all and has a super hot body. She isn't super skinny but not fat. Just right. I think what makes this lady so appealing to me is that she has no idea how hot she is, kinda like you! It's the young 18 year old girls that flaunt their stuff all around town that isn't sexy. I mean sure guys are gonna look at the young girls with the tight body's who act like their shit don't stink and run around half naked but are they gonna look hot when they are that old? Probably not due to the tanning bed, cigarettes, and bleaching their head to death. At least you know that you are still sexy years later. There are like 7 ladies I work with that I would lick their pussys clean, and all are over 35 maybe even 40! Don't worry about those girls, just come my way and I'll show you what your capable of! <3

 

I am 46 year old male. Yes a young girl is fun but in all reality any woman over 30 will screw circles around younger woman. Woman are only as old as they feel. When I was 25 in the service, i was with a 55 year woman for two days and she nearly killed me. It was the best. romantic sex I had for many years. I found that true with most older galos. Toung girls are fun, tend to be more flighty and always looking for the next big thing. Be it between her legs or fun. I am not saying all. I am saying don't sell yourself short. You r prob a firecracker!

 

Well for me it's all about chemistry and just being attracted to physical looks...I have seen PLENTY of women over 30 who look like Goddesses. I'm 37 and I would prefer a woman in her 30's - 40's because I hear that that is closer to the age that women peak sexually plus I just like more mature (mentally) women.

30's - 40's beats 18 - 20's for me all day everyday.