Guys : Looking Down Womens Clothing Tops

sorry.....but yes..can,t help it...it,s nature...gotta look.

 

I agree that *how* someone goes about looking is important. Its much nicer to know someone took an appreciative glance rather than a creepy drool filled stare. I do believe though that when women dress "sexy" it is because they (we) want to be admired. I may get all dolled up and feel sexy and claim its "just for me" but if while I'm out no one bothers to even glance my way, I certainly wouldn't feel as sexy as I thought I was. Its nice to be appreciated but we have to be prepared that all guys may look....I get annoyed by girls who dress all sexy but then get all pissy about getting attention from the *wrong* guy. Also, dressing sexy doesn't give any the one the right to touch but glances certainly are for free

 

Quite frankly I'm not that turned on by breasts - or any other part of the body for that matter. As a Naturist, I'm quite comfortable having naked bodies walking around me & don't consider any of them of sexual nature. It's the situation it's placed in that defines whether it's arousing or not. For example, I can be in a room with a regular sexual partner where we are both naked, yet I won't be aroused until the time when he/she makes it known that he/she fancies a bit - at which point my erection immediately responds & makes itself ready for action.

Personally, the part of the body I find to be most attractive is something as elementary as a smile, as this can be indicative of whether there's likely to be anything between us (or not, as the case may be).

 

why are ya lookin' at me like that,am i wearin' somethin' belong ta ya ? :smilielol5::smilielol5::smilielol5:

 

Originally Posted by Cherea
I'm concerned with staring more in terms of what it does to me. I'm not a starer out of concern for myself. Nothing is really worth my staring.

But, if staring at cleavages is creepy, so is exposing it. You don't have the right to the specific kind of attention you want if you choose to bring attention to yourself in public. By definition, you'll get a very democratic sample of attention-givers in all sorts of behavioral demographics if you choose to do it in a public space.

I respect the chick with no cleavage showing the most. About the chick with cleavage that enjoys the attention, I'm neutral at best (she ain't getting any from me). And the one who shows cleavage and complains about the inevitable attention, not at all. The useless complaint itself is a form of attention-whoring.

i agree too
there are so many kinds of whores who desire or even demand whoreship

there are corporate whores in suits and ties
there are religious whores in drag
there are sexual whores of both genders
there are internet whores who post their beliefs on chat sites like this
there are spiritual whores who sell out their psychic secrets
drug whores who are always stoned drunk or intoxicated

so many kinds of whores
seems the universe is mostly one big whore orgy

but lets not confine the whore definition to any gender pls
think of yourself as a whore/vampire first to understand where whoredom begins :bobby: busted !

 

Realise that you're speaking for yourself. You can't claim to know what's on the minds of other women. Neither can men- which is why they need to refrain from making judgments on women based on how they're dressed.

-Maybe I'm on my way to meet my boyfriend, and I'm dressed for him.

-Maybe I'm dressed this way solely for myself and don't want your attention or your opinion (to those who make comments).

-Maybe I'm a lesbian dressed for getting female attention.

-Maybe I'm dressed this way to attract a certain type of guy- and since I get to chose who I'm attracted to and who I'm not, I reserve the right to ignore or dislike the attention of those I'm not setting out to attract. Note I said "dislike" and didn't say "get mad at" or "take action against" - I dislike the attention I get but realise that it's inevitable that I get attention, and so accept that I'll have to pretend not to notice and ignore it.

Looking and admiring is fine and natural; making assumptions on a woman's sexual availability or feeling entitled to her attention is not acceptable.

 

Yes I shouldn't made grand sweeping statements for an entire gender. But I don't know any woman who dresses sexy for a night out thinking "I hope no one looks at me".

You've acknowledged that maybe you may be dressing to get attention...you can't complain when its not from just the specific person you choose.

I'm thinking of the girl that I work with who clearly dresses for attention...there is no way you can see her and not look at her boobs...she loves it when all the female coworkers shower her with compliments and when some of the hotter guys glance her way, but heaven forbid when the one manager who we alll know loves boobs takes a glance at her she remarks to us later that he's a pig for looking. I'm sorry but clearly she, and many others, are dressing for attention...but the attention is going to come from all over and if people don't like it, then cover up the cleavage!

 

Thank you! The hypocrisy level of this thread has gone down tremendously.

 

Well it truly baffles me when people think they can specificaly choose who gets to check them out. Its like when single people go to a bar and get mad when an unattractive person hits on them or asks them to dance. In some situations you don't choose who gives you attention, you choose how you handle it......in my bar going days my dads advice to me was that a girl should always accept a dance request from the guys she may have no interest in because the hot guy across the bar that she wants could be watching how she is treating others and if she is consistently turning others down, he is never going to ask her to dance. Pretty off topic but fits with the line of thinking that we can always choose who looks our way.

 

That's so funny!

I went out with a bi coworker of mine on Friday (it was great to be flamingly gay for the night; a lot less pressure), and this chick at the table next to us seemed to be checking me out. This guy joined their table and tried being touchy-feely with her. She had no obligation to reciprocate of course, but she just flung his arm off her in such a rude manner, I thought "there's no way this chick would ever get any of me."

Worse, I'm not making any apologies for the guy's behavior. He's just one of those guys that thinks he should persist with women, and maybe he's right. God knows I'm not rewarded for respecting women's boundaries. But, the thing is, she never at any moment made it clear she was not interested. It seemed her whole fetish was dumping rejection on this guy.

As far as your dad's advice, were I a dad, I would give my daughter a slightly different advice: I'd say, if you think a guy is hot and you want to dance or talk to him or have sex with him, take the initiative and ask him! Girl, you can make yourself happy through your own actions, and not through the actions of a man.

 

Oh he gave me that advice as well!! My father raised us to speak for ourselves, stand up for ourselves and go after what we want...the previous conversation came about while discussing what he himself was seeing at "singles dances"....my dad is a bit of a ladies man, lol...even as he nears 70 he is a lover of the ladies but he would never give attention to the women who demanded attention if she was rude to those who she didn't really want the attention from. There is no harm in being friendly and letting people know gently that your interest is elsewhere.

 

Good for you!!

I don't think I'd be much of an advice-y dad, but I'd offer my advice above if my daughter ever asked me.

 

Really?? I love my dads advice....he's hilarious...but he also has "free love" kinda morals so some of what he says may raise eyebrows.I find it hilarious! I give my 21 year old son unsolicited advice all the time...I figure my years of dating experience shouldn't go to waste. He just rolls his eyes at me.

 

It wouldn't raise mine. I favor open relationships. But, I try not to push it to anyone. It would be pretty obvious to any daughter of mine that monogamy is not the only game in town just by my own example. It would be also obvious to them (I hope) that I think women are entitled to have sex as they please, if they please, when they please, with whomever they please.

But my daughter would get a talking to if I ever caught her being entitled and princessy. Beautiful is fine! Self-loving is fine! Princessy, no! Not when I'm around! Not without hearing what I have to say about it!

 

And no low cut tops!!! Lol

Sorry for totally hijacking this thread. Back to the original discussion of boobies on display.

 

Well, now that we're back on topic, this is what I would say to my daughter if she asked me the traditional how-do-I-look:

"Really sexy."
"Do you think this dress shows too much cleavage/leg/midrift/figure?"
"Too much depends on your goals and how much you're willing to pay for them."

 

Wish every woman could be more like you Sassygurl.

 

Thanks for that.

But just because you personally don't know any such women, doesn't mean they don't exist. I'm one, so yeah...nice to meet you.

No, I didn't; and yes, I can.

No - I didn't acknowledge that I dress for attention. As I said earlier, I dress only for myself. This may sound snotty, but well...honestly, I'm way past the point of needing validation or caring what people think. It may sound cliche, but I dress the way I do because that is who I am. I'm a sensual woman and my clothes are a part of that. If someone looks at me, fine; if they don't that's also fine. It's really no concern of mine.

You won't find me complaining about people looking at me (it's normal and natural to want to look at people you find attractive) but that doesn't mean I have to like it, because I don't. As long as it's just looking, however, I simply ignore it.

That girl sounds pretty lame. She clearly invites attention by responding positively to comments, but then wants to be picky about whose comments she accepts. That's quite unreasonable, and it's totally unfair of her to call that guy a "pig". I would call her out on that if I were you.

 

I do call her out on it each time it happens....and remind her that its hard not to stare when her boobs are smacking us in the face each time she walks in the room...lol

 

LOL...!! Good on you! My kinda girl!