Guilt and shame for masturbating.

Says 99% of the men here...

 

I'm up (awake) at all times of the day night. I'm sure we can connect simultaneously and not just asynchronously as with normal forum catch-up. PM me if you like

 

If your guilt over masturbation is rooted in teachings from the Judeo-Christian tradition, maybe some history will help you overcome these feelings. The traditional source for the misguided idea that the Bible condemns masturbation is the story of Onan in Genesis 38.

According to the traditions in Onan’s culture, when one’s eldest, married brother died without an heir, the duty of a younger brother was to impregnate the widowed sister in law so that the elder brother would have an heir. Even though the biological father would be the younger brother, the child would be deemed the offspring of the deceased older brother. Don’t try to make sense of it, those were the cultural rules.

When this duty fell to Onan to fuck his widowed sister in law, he knew that her child would supplant his own previously born children as heir to the family estate, and that the newly born heir would never be considered Onan’s child. In order to prevent the SIL from getting pregnant, when he “knew her” he unilaterally used the withdrawal method of birth control, pulling his penis out of her when he was about to cum to let his seed “spill upon the ground.”

God was displeased with this contrivance so he struck Onan dead. At some point when Christianity was developing its extreme abhorrence for anything to do with non-procreational sex, the story of Onan was held up as an example of what happens to dudes who spill their semen on the ground.

However, an overwhelming consensus of biblical scholars agree that God’s displeasure stemmed not from Onan ejaculating somewhere other than inside a vagina, but rather because Onan disobeyed the command to knock up his SIL. The story has nothing to do with masturbation. Onan was not masturbating, though common sense might indicate he gave his cock a few jerks as he pulled out to ejaculate, haha.

Masturbation is normal and healthy and nothing to feel bad about.

 

Lol, I have known some women a greater challenge than it would be to knock up my eldest SIL. Well, not actually to knock her up but to shag her, especially 30yrs ago.
I would certainly have relished such a requirement (And she is indeed now a widow).

Masturbation is normal healthy and NECESSARY.
How else can a guy see if there's blood in it, or a dodgey smell or a change of colour (each a potential sign of infection)?

And your family doctor will on occasion ask for a sperm sample. Not only to check the sperm count but to check for other ailments, potential or otherwise.
That sample comes from masturbation for medical purposes. It's an essential part of adult life.

 

I'd like that if I can pull it off, as they say. PM initially. Share experiences. I've had a few but they were a while ago. 5am here I'm usually on. I usually get some pulling off happening. Alone time is rare.

 

Has masturbation helped with your depression?

 

Yes it's a safety valve. Talking on here and sharing stories and approaches to sex helps too , and it gets me masturbating. I need to interact with others to make it more fulfilling.

 

Feel free to message me if you would like. It's important that we support each other when we can.

 

I used to feel guilty for some reason when I was younger, now I simply don't care. I don't understand why I felt guilty, I wasn't religious or anything. Now I actually absolutely love wanking!

 

A lot of thing are called SIN that are Not in the Bible. As a kid way back then i remember hearing this discussed and my mother said, Why it cant mean what it says or it would be ok for a man to play with himself. I overheard but It was years later before i understood this. i was told that "playing with myself" was wrong so i did it on the sly like most of us. Actually the Bible says-- "If a man spills seed then he is Unclean until sundown" -Unclean , Not Sin. An Unclean Practice meant to be done in private, an act of intimacy, not public or before children. It also applies for a man and woman having intimacy in sex who are not mound by a marriage contract and also "Unclean until sundown" Both ways they are to wash the whole body with water. The original first rule was- "Be fruitful and Multiply". just like mammals and other animals, men and woman are supposed to fuck and make babes. The great wonderful thrill is the reward for participating in the propitiation of the species. In a society there are additional rules where you may brake a rule but is Not Sin. It is the Man's seed that is delivered to the woman. Society makes The man liable for caring for the woman who received and developed the child and the child produced and also what the Legal Marriage Contract is about. Masturbation is especially useful for health, control of probable situations and satisfaction but is Not Sin.